Laura has had to go on a 'fishing' expedition in the grossest of places all thanks to Lola! Has your kid ever 'dropped' something valuable in a place that they shouldn't have? Britt tried to replace the shrine but failed epically and has had to employ a man who woke up in our friend's bed to fix the problem! Vibes for the week: Britt - Picking up a new hobby. Basketball Laura - India Oxenberg's book 'Still Learning' Keeshia - By Maay Brooklyn work bag Then we get into your questions! DO I START SLEEPING WITH STRANGERS OR JUST HAVE NO SEX LIFE THANKS TO MY PARTNER? MY HUSBAND GAVE ME MONEY AS A BDAY PRESENT DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER GO AFTER HE DUMPED ME FOR ANOTHER GIRL?

Ever feel as though you’re not quite able to ‘do it all?’ During the past 2 decades, there has been a huge push into the world of ‘hustle culture.’ So many of us feel like we are constant hot messes, rushing around to try and get a million things in our day done. Joining the podcast today is Israa Nasir, New York based psychotherapist and author of the new book “Toxic Productivity.” Israa is here today to help us let go of the belief that our value is defined by how busy and successful we feel. Israa speaks about this as someone who currently has skin in the game, not from a place of hindsight. We are all having to manage this idea of toxic productivity now! We chat: Productivity no longer just applies to work. It’s infiltrated our romantic relationships, friendships, parenting and personal health Productivity guilt; the guilty feeling when we ‘relax’ The need for external validation can look like people pleasing or a workaholic Chaotic state of a dysregulated nervous system becoming familiar e.g. ”I do my best work under pressure.” “I thrive in chaos.” Dynamics that keep us constantly busy, but never satisfied such as; self-worth, shame, social comparison, burnout, and perfectionism Cultivating a healthier perspective on achievement to understand, manage, and shift our intense emotions 

It's officially Britt's bangiversary! She's tried to dupe Ben into a fancy gift but Ben's aware of her antics. We speak about the advice we got from our grandmothers. Some of it hasn't aged particularly well. We might have found the world's most conflict avoidant man; the man who *likely has faked his own death to ditch his family and go to a woman in Europe. There was a video filmed back in June (two months before Ryan Borgwardt's disappearance). It shows a man on a bike asking if he should go to Uzbekistan to meet a woman, despite being married. After the video went viral, authorities say that the video isn't Ryan. Also, how do you like your labia? We've spoken about symmetry, length and comfort when it comes to labia but labia puffing seems new. We ask: Is our generation more obsessed than ever with labia? Do you think this trend highlights empowerment or unnecessary pressure for perfection?

Hey Lifers! Britt has had an extremely embarrassing moment at the hairdresser. We would want the ground to swallow us whole. Has your dog ever caused you to be in the most embarrassing moment of your life? Laura is having a bit of trouble getting Lola to give up something that she loves. Lola is in negotiations and Laura is struggling to reach a mutually agreed upon solution! Vibes for the week: Britt: Martha on Netflix Laura: Marigold’s Magic Stars book by Samantha Wills Keeshia: RecipeTin Eats Tonight Cookbook Then we get into your questions! I CAN'T SLEEP WHEN WE ARE IN THE SAME BED BOYFRIEND SUPPORTS TRUMP HOLDING IN MY GAS AROUND HIM

Do you have a ‘type’? No, not a physical type. What do the people you’ve been in relationships all have in common? It’s time for us to fully unpack why we tend to go for the same types of people over and over again, and how to break the cycle. Sabrina Zohar is a relationship expert, entrepreneur and podcast host. Sabrina breaks down a lot of the ‘therapy terms’ and neuroscience to focus on doing the internal work and recognising patterns to chase the right kinds of connections and build healthy relationships. She’s known for her no bullshit relationship advice and telling you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear! We chat: Identifying the patterns and taking accountability for what we are doing to contribute to them Bullshit blueprint - the core beliefs and things that were ingrained as you as a kid Becoming better ‘buyers’ in the dating world Can you trust ‘the spark?’ Looking at ‘what is’ rather than ‘what if’

Hey lifers! Laura and Matt both forgot their 2nd wedding anniversary. Do you celebrate each year?Are you the person who remembers 'dates'? We're talking anniversaries, birthdays, 'firsts' etc. How about your partner? What happens if one of you is a date celebrator and the other isn't? Britt has picked her wedding dress and Laura wants to see it! Did you share your wedding dress with your friends before your actual wedding day? The government has announced proposed legislation to be introduced to parliament that would ban kids under 16 from using social media, even if they have parental consent. Initially we thought this was great. But once we scratched the surface we realised that maybe it wasn't as good as it initially appeared. We speak about the pros and cons of implementing age restrictions on social media, whether it's a bit of a performative action, how it would be implemented and if there are alternative ways to protect kids online. Britt got to enjoy Coldplay and Laura got to enjoy Chris Martin walk solo down Bondi beach looking very, very 'cool'!

Hey lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! First question of the day is who is your 'hear me out' character (which fictional character are you attracted to)? Laura revealed her attraction to Barney the dinosaur by accident the other day and Britt is quite the fan of the ninja turtle Leonardo who would be in their 40s/50s now... Keeshia has a question about tipping etiquette; how do you feel when the tip is automatically applied when it comes to pay and if you don't want to tip, you're expected to select to remove it? Then we answer your questions! HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO USE OUR EMBRYOS CHRISTMAS WITH PARTNER’S FAMILY THE SEX ISN'T GOOD. HOW DO I NAVIGATE THIS?

Elizabeth Gilbert is one of the most brilliant authors of our time. She authored ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ which sold over 12 million copies and was then turned into a movie starring Julia Roberts. She’s also written books like ‘Committed’, ‘Big Magic’ and ‘City of Girls’. Elizabeth shares so many teachings around vulnerability, connectedness, living a life that is led by love, and now how to become ‘a relaxed woman, pushing back on the expectations of what society wants from you’. Today we spoke about: Being an award winning writer who wrote about men and was sympathetic to the male experience, until she wrote the number 1 ‘chick-lit’ book of our time. Funnily enough, the award nominations dried up. The shared experience of having everything that we are meant to ‘want’ and feeling so deeply unhappy. How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships, and how free she now feels being emotionally autonomous The facts about how marriage affects women: married women don’t live as long as single women, they’re more likely to report being depressed and anxious, they are more likely to have autoimmune conditions, more likely to be addicted to substances etc. How all of our lives could be titled ‘not exactly what I had in mind’ The complexity of falling in love with someone knowing it will hurt other people that you care about Learning about loss through grief

Britt and Keeshia have spent the entire weekend together and they're the friends that ask you if you can come to Africa tomorrow. Laura shared a story about some of the early days of Marlie's life that aren't quite her best moments! Laura would love to know how many times your kid accidentally rolled off the bed? We unpack the goss from the Wicked premiere! We were interested in how they would approach the PR of the film given the reputational damage that Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater suffered after having a rumoured 'affair.' We wondered whether they would take a 'Don't Worry Darling" approach (Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde) where they kept space from each other in public, or if they would lean in to their romance! There was one line in the movie that we are shocked they kept in! Plus, what would bring you to 'loyalty test' your partner? We speak about the 'how' and the 'why' you may get to a place where you consider conducting a loyalty test. Is the entrapment just as bad as the potential cheating?

Hey Lifers! Happy Halloween!! Some of our team are more into it than others and you can come to us for all your budget, last minute Halloween costume needs! Are you a Halloween person? Laura's kids are super excited and have been counting down the days, while Britt has outed herself as a bit of a grinch. Vibes for the week: Keeshia - A Man Called Otto film (on apple TV) Laura - Jailbreak. Love on the Run on Netflix Britt - Dessert Little Moons Mochi Balls Then we get into your questions! DO I TELL HIM ABOUT MY PAST AS A SEX WORKER? MY BOYFRIEND IS MOVING IN WITH A WOMAN CAUGHT BROTHER CHEATING

Haven Shepherd was born in Vietnam. When she was 16 months old, her biological parents, who had had an affair, detonated a bomb that was intended to be a family suicide. It instantly killed her biological parents but Haven survived. Haven was thrown 10 metres from the family hut and driven for 2 hours on a motorbike to the local hospital where they amputated both of her legs. She hasn’t had surgery since! 4 months later, she was adopted into an American family and gained 6 siblings! Haven is now an elite paralympic athlete who competed at Tokyo 2020. She also happens to be a laugh and a half with some of the most outrageous ‘double decker’ date stories we’ve ever heard! In the chat we speak about: What Haven remembers about her early years Whether she holds resent for her biological parents How strangers ask inappropriate questions about how Haven lost her legs How Haven’s parents initially weren’t going to be her parents and the serendipitous way they found each other Why swimming was the best option for her How parents should teach their kids about disability You can find more from Haven's Instagram! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Britt has potentially found a new life... as a trad wife! Either that or she's going off grid more often. Laura has had a bit of a mishap spreading her beautiful grandparent's ashes. How do you feel about sharing your kids online? Where is the line when it comes to kids being paid to create online content? You might remember the horrible story of the mum, Ruby Franke, who was charged with 4 counts of child abuse earlier this year. There is a brand new film called 'Mormon Mom Gone Wrong' that came out on Oct 26 that details the story of the Franke family and their youtube account that had 2 million subscribers. Shari Franke is now 21 years old and has shared her testimony in court about her experiences of abuse and family vlogging. She states that there is no such thing as a moral and ethical family vlogger. We unpack these questions: Should children have a say in family vlogging content? What are the ethical implications of involving kids in content? Can you get informed consent from kids? How should kids be ‘compensated’ if they are making content that makes money? Does it matter if they make money? Does it change when it becomes a significant income source? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! There is a lot of weird news in the world today... mostly the guy who chose to put 15 hard boiled eggs in his backside. Britt's partner Ben has had a hair makeover. Did you 'plan' your hair look for your wedding in terms of colour/length etc? Did you opt for something that was your 'look' rather than going for a short term hair change? Vibes for the week: Keeshia: Sweet Bobby on Netflix Britt: Instax camera Laura: Fallen Angel Podcast Then we jump into your questions! DID WE DO THE RIGHT THING BY THE DRUNK HEN? I DON'T LIKE THEM CALLING HER GRANDMA CAN I TELL HIM TO NOT GO?

Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss’ and ‘Too Much’. This is the third time Terri has joined us on the podcast! The first time was to speak about cheating, the second was to speak about boundaries and today Terri is joining us to unpack codependence! But, not the standard idea of what codependency is. Today we speak about what Terri refers to as ‘high functioning codependence’ and how we are able to recognise when we are doing ‘too much’ for other people, and need to prioritise ourselves more. Spoiler, none of us identified as being codependent… until we learnt what high functioning codependency looked like and the alarm bells RANG! We speak about: High functioning codependency isn’t what we typically think of a a ‘codependent person’ They’re highly capable, the person everyone depends on, the problem solver, the ‘fixer’ Resentment inventories! We all need to identify where we are ‘over giving’ and ‘over functioning’ Being hyper independent, “I got it” and not wanting to ask for help or owing other people anything How it all contributes to burnout and cognitive overload Do you identify with any of these labels? They might be new to you! -approval seeking, -auto fixing/auto accommodator -self sacrificing -hyper helping

Laura has had a weekend away with the friends that she hunted down on Linked in (it's hard to make friends as adults right??). Something that happened on the weekend raised the question for her of when to intervene to protect your kids from something vs when to let them work it out for themselves and build resilience. We're curious to know what you would have done in this situation. Is a more inclusive rebrand enough to save Victoria's Secret? Last week we saw the first Victoria's Secret runway show since 2019. They've tried to be more inclusive with different body shapes and sizes. We speak about the past controversies that Victoria's Secret has been involved in and how the messaging of the company was so problematic. Should companies with a history of exclusion or problematic practices be given the opportunity to evolve and change, or is it too late for brands like Victoria’s Secret? Plus we speak about the friends of Dave Grohl's wife Jordyn Blum threatening to end their friendship if she goes back to him after he has fathered a kid outside of their marriage. Have you ever had to cut off a friend because you were so sick of seeing them go back to a problematic partner? Have you ever felt really exhausted from being the emotional support to a friend, kind of playing therapist, when they seemed to never take advice on board?

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions. Laura has endured one of the most awkward experiences we could imagine. It involves a naked French man on a stage, a crowd and tears in the front row. Then we jump into your questions! MY PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WEAR CONDOMS BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE ON CONTRACEPTION HOW MANY DATES BEFORE I HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE? DO I INVITE MY DAD'S GIRLFRIEND WHO HE CHEATED ON MY MUM WITH? HE'S GOING TO PROPOSE ON HER BIRTHDAY

Today’s episode is all about migraines, a debilitating condition that affects millions of people worldwide, including our very own Britt. Britt has struggled with migraines her entire life. We’re joined by Dr. Kaitlyn Parratt, a neurologist who specialises in headache disorders and epilepsy. We speak about: Why women experience migraines more than men Periods of our lives when you might experience them more How hormones and other triggers affect migraines The genetic component of migraines The physical and psychological toll they take Treatment options, first and second line therapies The process of qualifying for migraine ‘botox’ Chicken or the egg? Anxiety, OCD, depression and migraines Do orgasms help relieve migraine pain?

Britt and Laura won a big, fancy radio award for best podcast hosts!! Laura is finishing off sailing the high seas on her first cruise so producer Keeshia is filling in for her today. Both her and Britt have unexpected and uncalled for hangovers from the awards night. Britt's whole family think Keeshia is a huge creep! Last week we spoke about Monica and Stephen on Love Is Blind and Stephen’s use of ‘therapy speak’ in the pods to make him seem more emotionally intelligent and in tune. More episodes have been released and... it's not good for Monica and Stephen. But, something happened when they were 'breaking up' and it had us questioning whether you should or shouldn't ask an ex to pay you back for any money they may owe you. Have you asked for someone to pay you after you've broken up? What was the amount? Two shows are currently trending about the Menendez brothers on Netflix. One is a documentary that involved the brothers who are currently in prison serving consecutive life sentences for the murder of their parents. The other is a dramatised TV series based on 10 different perspectives and directed by Ryan Murphy. Ryan Murphy is known for his controversial true crime dramas like Dahmer - Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story, the People vs. O.J. Simpson, and The Assassination of Gianni Versace.` We discuss: Whether it’s ethical to create a series that includes traumatic events without consulting with the people most affected by it, Whether sensationalising true crime stories has gone too far, How the public perception of victims of abuse has evolved, and The power of social media in turning attention to these stories.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Britt's sister Sheri has had her juice go missing from her fridge and the culprit is not a character that you'd suspect!! Have you had a tradie do something that they weren't supposed to at your house? WHEN IS IT APPROPRIATE TO MEET UP WITH MALE COLLEAGUES? DO I GIVE THE FAMILY SOME MONEY OR RESPECT MY GRANDMA'S WISHES? CAN I GET A 4 YR OLD MAKEUP FOR CHRISTMAS?

There is a lot of discussion around women's empowerment in general, but women's leadership in particular is a topic that we are still defining and understanding. We’ve spoken before about gender pay gaps, glass ceilings, sticky floors, opportunity cost and the expectations on women to ‘do it all’ before. Megan Dalla-Camina is a three time best selling author and award winning women’s leadership and gender diversity expert. She is also the founder and CEO of the fastest growing women's ed-tech platform ‘Women rising’. Today’s chat is about understanding the reasons behind why ⅘ women feel as though they are not thriving at work and the little voice in our head tells us we just aren’t doing a good enough job. Megan calls this the archetypes of the inner critic: The perfectionist The beauty queen The sceptic The imposter The people pleaser The outsider The comparer The good girl The overachiever The self doubter The chameleon The empath The ideal mother We also speak about: What mini burnout looks like and how you feel when the mini burnouts happen one after the other Motherhood paradox of the expectation to work like they don’t have children but raise kids as though they don’t have work responsibilities People pleasing, trying to be an agreeable, easy to work with person and how that leads to you not getting what you deserve at work How we can utilise this information to help us feel more comfortable in finding what is going to be ‘success’ to us and make us genuinely happy Feminine vs masculine ‘traits’ in leadership

Britt looks like Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson today, but the dress code for her wedding has caused an unintentional stir. The Europeans think she's a bit of a creep! Last week Laura told us how much she loved the reptiles at the reptile park and in a relatively ironic turn of events, she might have 15 of her own coming to her new home! A few days ago, Love Is Blind US (Netflix) released season 7 of the show. There was a particular moment where one of the contestants, Stephen admits to Monica that he has emotionally cheated in the past. He then went on to say “we went through therapy. We worked it out” and “I’m actively in therapy to talk about these things.” We spoke about how speaking about therapy in the dating landscape can be great, but it can also be used as a tactic to manipulate their date into thinking they're more emotionally intelligent than they are! Many women now say they prefer to date men who’ve been to therapy. Do men now use therapy as a badge of emotional depth? We also spoke about "therapy-speak" and the overuse of certain labels or phrases like triggering, trauma, narcissist, gaslighting and sociopath. Do you think the overuse of these terms dilutes the experiences of people who have endured genuine abuse or trauma? We also spoke about how we can spot when therapy-speak is being used manipulatively versus when it reflects genuine emotional growth. 

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions! We're all a little scattered today driving past turn offs and forgetting entire road trips! Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD 'FAMILY PLANNING' BE ASKED BY MY BOSS? WORKPLACE GIFTS HOW DO I GET THIS GUY OUT OF MY DMs AND INTO A REAL DATE? DO I INVITE MY EX BEST FRIEND TO MY WEDDING?

Michelle Bridges is a fitness icon, TV personality, and bestselling author of 17 books! Recently, she developed a new program specifically for women navigating menopause, combining her personal experience with her expertise in fitness to help women stay strong and healthy during this life stage. We previously released an episode on perimenopause and menopause with Dr Louise Newson that you can listen to here Dr Newson gives us a really important medical insight into the changes that can happen during this time, and we wanted to extend this conversation and speak with Michelle about her lived experience and some of the lifestyle factors that can impact this time of women’s lives. In this episode we speak about: The lesser known symptoms that Michelle experienced during perimenopause The steps Michelle took to work out what was going on in her body The importance of finding a GP who specialises in women’s health Being offered antidepressants when Michelle didn’t identify with being depressed Feeling really empowered during this stage of life How exercise, nutrition and supplementation can impact menopause

Laura went to the reptile park and had a brilliant time. She's also planted a new fear in a friend's child by accident. Are there activities that you feel like you can't do unless you have kids with you? Do you think you can recycle and reuse nudes? Do they have an expiry? Does it matter if they're taken while during the current relationship? Britt and Ben are on different sides of the fence for this one! We break down the new 'dating terminology' coming to 2025. Are you meant to say anything to a woman who is pregnant? There is currently a huge amount of commentary about Margot Robbie's pregnant body. But, is this type of commentary only for celebrities and pap pics or do most women receive comments on their body when they're pregnant? We speak about how some comments are received in a different way to what they may be intended and how inappropriate some of the common types of comments are. We also spoke about Kate Winslet being labelled as 'brave' for being okay with her 'belly rolls' being on display during a topless scene in a new film that she stars in. 

Have you ever developed an allergy later in life? Laura may have developed a new one and it's impacting every aspect of her life and every pore in her body! Then we jump into the questions: IS IT BETTER TO TURN A BLIND EYE? HOW TO CHOOSE WEDDING LOCATION WHEN FAMILY ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF AUS DO I TELL HER THAT HER HUSBAND IS CHEATING?

Dr. Louise Newson is a leading expert in the field of menopause and perimenopause. She's a GP, menopause specialist, educator, podcaster and author. She’s the woman in the know of menopause and today we would like to break down the misunderstandings, myths, misconceptions and medical misogyny surrounding menopause. In this chat we speak about: Changing hormones & how it affects our brains and behaviour The tendency for medications like antidepressants or sleeping tablets to be prescribed How the labelling of menopause doesn’t really mean anything How the loss of ‘zest’ for life impacts their relationships What type of hormones are safe to take for HRT and contraception What lifestyle factors largely affect hormones Whether other conditions like PCOS, endometriosis or diabetes can change the onset or ‘severity’ of menopause

Britt's jet lagged after her trip to Romania. It was somewhat eventful and she's now an experienced quake girly. Laura's daughter Marlie is about to graduate from preschool and we're curious to know what your graduation song was. Was it Green Day or... eye of the tiger? Now that Laura has had a week off and Marlie Mae is about to go to school, she's back considering having another child. A dating app has brought in a new feature to try and reduce dating fatigue and avoid analysis paralysis. Hinge will now stop you from matching with someone new if you have 8 or more messages waiting for a response from you. The idea is to make it a more conscious effort and only have a few conversations going at a time. If you're in the dating world, is this good news for you?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. This episode was recorded a week in advance as Britt is visiting Ben in Romania. Britt opens up about some of the challenges of long distance and what she’s really struggling with at the moment. Do you think it’s okay to be in a relationship if you know that the person isn’t ‘the one’ (or end game) for you? How long is it okay to be ‘working’ this out? Does it depend on the age of the people in the relationship? Then we get into your questions! HE WON’T GO DOWN ON ME & DOESN’T MAKE AN EFFORT TO PLEASURE ME HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STI FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS WITH A COLLEAGUE

Before being known as Danielle Laidley, she was a hugely successful AFL player and played 151 games for West Coast Eagles and North Melbourne football clubs, and winning premierships and going onto be the youngest senior coach ever at 36, coaching North Melbourne for 149 games across seven seasons from 2003 to 2009. For decades, Danielle kept her gender to herself and threw herself into sporting success and became a workaholic. Eventually the pain of keeping this secret led to some dark coping mechanisms like substance abuse. In May, 2020, a police officer took a photo of Danielle in an interview room at a St Kilda police station while wearing a wig and make-up. This photo was shared in a group chat before it was leaked to the media & the public. Now, following her diagnosis with gender dysphoria, Danielle works extensively as an advocate for transgender people, raising awareness in a quest for acceptance of diversity.

Today we take a deep dive on what friendship means to us and whether we're too quick to deprioritise friendship when other responsibilities rear their heads. We spoke about Simon Sinek and his conversation on the Prof G Podcast and his Youtube with Trevor Noah What are you currently looking for in friendship? Has that shifted over the years as your life has gone through different chapters? Is there too much pressure to maintain friendships when there are all of these other things that we are trying to do well? 92% of you have experienced a friendship breakup. Most of you think about the breakdown of a friendship more than the breakdown of a romantic relationship. We speak about our own experiences of friendship breakdowns and whether we would ever be able to reestablish those friendships.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. Laura and Matt are having some *creative differences* in their house reno visions. Laura wants to live under the rainbow and is anti beige brigade. Matt wants a bright blue laundry. DO WE STILL HAVE TO GET THEM A WEDDING GIFT DO I DOUBLE MESSAGE HIM? PUBIC HAIR

Jeff Guenther AKA TherapyJeff is here to help you take control of your dating life, by tuning into who you are, what you want, and how you can get there. Therapy Jeff has over 3.8 million followers on socials. He is a licensed therapist with twenty years’ experience in private practice. Today we are going to unpack a bit of the psychology behind why we are the way that we are in relationships and how that impacts different aspects of our dating lives! Today we chat about: Growing up with a mum who is also a therapist. Is that good or bad? Can we blame our parents for who we are attracted to? Why is dating so hard right now? If you’re on dating apps, you could be dating an AI avatar of the person When we ARE the problem and how to take control of that Patterns: are you after chaos and drama or a healthy stable relationship? No, but really what are you actually searching for? How much can you change someone to help them meet your needs? How to spot the difference between love bombing and the honeymoon phase Can you survive cheating? What determines whether you can or can’t

Unions are pushing to keep bosses from 'trawling' social media and reprimanding employees because of what they're getting up to on the gram. It could be a faked sickie, or a perspective that doesn't align with the values of the business. Do you think employers should be able to reprimand their employees for things that they post on social media? We also speak about the brave woman Gisele Pelicot, who has chosen to waive her right to anonymity after her husband drugged her and allowed her to be sexually abused by 70+ men. We speak about the shift in the way that society views victimhood and the strength that it takes for victims to publicly share their stories to advocate for justice. We also look at the role the media and legal systems play in shaping the choices of survivors.

This is ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions after we've had a bit of a gasbag about our own personal dilemmas! PARTNER WATCHES PORN BEFORE WE HAVE SEX FAMILY NOT COMING TO KIDS BIRTHDAY DITCHING A WAKE

Eleanor Mills is an award winning journalist, editor and broadcaster who has taken a bit of a pivot in her mid life by creating a community called ‘noon’. At 49, Eleanor was abruptly made redundant from her role as the editor of the Sunday Times Magazine and chair of women in journalism. She lost her sense of purpose, and her identity - and her family lost its main source of income. She felt washed up and burnt out; like everything which had defined her life for the last 25 years was gone. But then she noticed something: she wasn’t alone. Today we are going to unpack what Eleanor calls the midlife cluster fuck, our perceived value as we age and a lot of the motivators and values that we hold as career driven women. 

Armie Hammer has entered stage 3 of his 'redemption' arc. He's shared a video on instagram about how he is selling his beloved truck because he can't afford to put gas in it anymore. We unpack false victimhood and all different kinds of celebrities performing authenticity online. How do we know the difference between real suffering and performative authenticity and can Armie Hammer be uncancelled? We unpack our thoughts. 

Welcome back to therapy Thursday where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! DO I TELL MY MUM I GOT SENT HER NUDES? CAN WE HAVE SEX WHEN OUR CHILD IS ONLY METRES AWAY? DO I REFUND HER?

Gus Worland is a TV, podcast and radio host, and the director and founder of the mental health foundation Gotcha4life. Gus is a passionate advocate for building mental fitness. Gus is particularly good at helping women connect with the men in their lives in ways that enable vulnerable and real conversations about their mental health. We chat: Gus’ childhood friendship with Hugh Jackman, or ‘Jacko’ as he calls him Whether Gus is jealous of Hugh’s friendship with Ryan Reynolds What mental fitness is & why we have such an issue with mental health now Where men disproportionately struggle Why so many men are suffering in silence and don’t speak up when they’re struggling Not letting anyone struggle alone Creating ‘villages’ around us Gus also speaks about some really practical ways that we can connect with blokes, not try to ‘fix’ everything and create relationships where they feel comfortable speaking up.

The world is in mourning as JLo and Ben Affleck file for divorce! Lots of the world are talking about whether you think it's ever a good idea to go back to your ex. But, we're more interested in whether you think divorce can make you a better parent. There was a really interesting article by Kathryn Jezer-Morton in the Cut that explored the idea that the end of a marriage, while challenging, can lead to personal growth and improved parenting skills. We discuss: Whether our experiences of divorce or parents staying together influenced our views on relationships and marriage Whether you should or shouldn't stay in a step kid's life Whether we think divorce is always traumatic to kids How it shaped our views of conflict Parents who are only staying together for the kids - is this a good thing or a bad thing? Does being a 'child of divorce' make you more 'realistic' about marriage?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions! It's Britt and Producer Keeshia's birthday and they're off on a romantic, couples holiday as a taste tester (quite literally) of Britt's wedding. Have you ever taken a vibrator to Bali? We might get stopped at customs for reasons we weren't expecting! If you have had a wedding, did you have a 'first look' and do photos before your ceremony or did you wait to have photos taken after the ceremony? Laura had an 'interesting' back drop in some of her wedding photos that caused a smell that didn't fit with the feelings of the moment.

Ellie has just touched down back in Australia after doing poolside commentary in Paris at the 2024 Olympics. We have a whole bunch of Olympic questions for her like: -The funniest/most meme-able moments from Paris 2024 - What is the Olympic Village like? - Can and do the athletes all hook up with each other? - What are the Olympic beds like? - Should the Paralympics and Olympics be at the same time? - Pay parity, the ‘equal Olympics’ and misogyny in commentary We also speak about Ellie becoming a mum, their IVF journey and her fears about her son being bullied when he gets to school for having two mums.

We take a bit of a peak behind the curtain of what actually happens at the Logies. We spoke about the highlights and lowlights, who left early, how the red carpet and outfits all work and also we are now Felix, Cameron, and Larry Emdur stans. Britt speaks about her mum overstepping on what was intended to be a generous offer and Laura finally shares the real story behind her wedding planner who was a bit of a scammer.

Britt has some terrible dating advice that includes faking a celebrity interaction. The tide seems to be turning on Raygun. There is more speculation around the ethics of her journey to the Olympics since we recorded on Monday morning. Laura helps Britt learn about her (Ben's) new home in Romania. Then we jump into your questions!

Brittany Butler spent nine years as a targeting officer within the CIA's Directorate of Operations, Counterterrorism Center. Brittany has worked both at Langley and in the Middle East and has first-hand knowledge of how the CIA recruits spies and how intelligence organisations discover and apprehend terrorists. In today’s episode we speak about: How Brittany was recruited to the CIA Our perceptions of what someone in the CIA would look and be like vs reality Whether she told her loved ones what her real job was Meeting terrorists and whether Brittany was ever scared How the collaboration between CIA, FBI, secret services and police works Who was ultimately responsible for the security at former president Trump’s assassination attempt What Brittany is and isn’t allowed to speak about from her time in the CIA Is the CIA a boys' club? Honey pot operations and the value that women bring to intelligence organisations Advocacy for women’s rights in the Middle East Writing spy novels from a female perspective and sharing those experiences!

The entire world cannot stop talking about Raygun. We unpack where the line between trolling and criticism is, whether the commentary is gendered and whether it's 'good enough' that she 'did her best'. We also take a bit of a dive into her own research in the field and how it seems to contrast her performance at the Olympics.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! How do you feel about group saunas? Are they good for a bit of a group therapy session or human stew? Vibes for the week can be found here! Britt: Tom organic period cup Keeshia: The Shocking Effects of 500 Days Without Alcohol - Mark Manson Laura: Koala Suffolk Chair Then we get into your questions! DO I CATCH UP WITH HER OR LEAVE IT I had this girlfriend I’d only known for a short time through work. Early in our friendship, just a couple of months in, she asked me for advice on proposing to her boyfriend. I encouraged her to go for it and a few weeks later I found myself hiding behind a beach umbrella, camera in hand, capturing her proposal. Not long after, she asked me to be her bridesmaid. I was flattered and accepted, although I was a bit surprised given how new our friendship was. Then, the wedding was postponed for a year due to a venue mixup. Life got busy for both of us, but I made an effort to stay in touch, regularly checking in. Her responses were few and far between, until one day out of the blue, she sent me a long text telling me she didn’t want me at the bridal party anymore. She claimed I was the reason we’d drifted apart but said she still wanted me in her life. Yet, when the wedding finally happened, I wasn’t invited at all. A few months after the wedding, she messaged me saying she wanted to catch up. Now, I’m torn: should I take the high road and give her a second chance, or cut ties since she was the one who cut me off first? We still have mutual friends, so it’s likely we’ll run into each other at some point. NO MORE BABY TALK My best friend sometimes makes comments when we are out for dinner with our closest girl group like ‘no more baby talk’. It’s a punch in the gut for me. This year my entire life has been consumed with my baby. I was on family leave and just started back up at work now. At this point of my life, all of it revolves around my baby. I feel confused and don’t know who I am any more, I feel like I have nothing else to talk about, and to my friends who I love dearly, I’m boring them. Normally I wouldn’t want to care what people think of me, but her opinion of me really matters. My best friend does want to have kids (but in a few years). I guess my question is, how do I navigate this friendship, since we are both at different stages of our life? How do I navigate the comments? How do I find myself again? I sometimes miss the old me (freedom and time to do things I want to do), but I especially miss the old me when I feel I’m boring my best friends and have nothing else to contribute. Or how do I care less about this? NOT READY FOR MY MUM TO MEET MY NEW BOYFRIEND I’m going away on an overseas holiday with my new boyfriend. We have only been dating for 2-3 months but a holiday is a holiday so why not! My mum is actually going overseas (not with us) at the same time and our flights come in on the same day around the same time. My mum has asked if we can give her a lift home from the airport. It’s only early days in the relationship and a long 2 hr drive home from the airport. This might possibly be the first time she and he meet and I’m not ready for that. I don’t know how to say no without feeling guilty and if I tell her I’m not ready for her to meet him she won’t understand. I know she will take over the car ride home and won’t stop yapping or complaining. I’m feeling so anxious about it already. I’m 35 yrs old if age helps with context. Keeshia mentioned a great conversation about going sober and alcoholism with Emily Weir & you can listen here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Zoe Marshall is a lot of things. A podcaster, a content creator, an ex radio host, a mother of 2 and she’s now an advocate for mindset and manifestation. She’s joining us today to talk through why mindset is so important in our lives and the science behind some practices that have been thought of as a bit 'woo woo'. Zoe also speaks about what led her in a different direction from the successful podcast 'the deep' and how we all process and manage trauma. We speak about: How ‘manifesting’ has been labelled as only for the privileged Finding purpose in less conventional ways Conscious thought and taking action especially in relationships Reticular activation system Shifting mindset from fear to gratitude It’s the feeling, not the ‘thing’ that you actually want You can find everything from Zoe here Zoe’s course "How to Manifest" - use code LIFEUNCUT for 25% off You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Laura has had a really heart breaking week. Her wonderful step father passed away last Tuesday night and today she shares some of the best bits of who he was as a man. We also have a conversation about living alongside grief and how life is somewhat expected to continue 'as normal' when you're experiencing it. Laura also shares how she's finding it challenging knowing how to explain what has happened to her two young daughters. Britt has tried on her first wedding dress and it brought her (and only her) to tears! The wedding date is closer than any of us expected! We have a bit of a laugh about what styles of dresses we expect Britt to pick. Was the dress you ended up choosing to be married in the 'style' that you expected or was it different? Is it best to publicly call out a cheater? We unpack the growing trend of people using Tiktok to call out what they think is cheating in an effort to out them and find the wronged partner to let them know. Is it always better to ‘expose’ them? Or do you think that is more humiliating for the person who has been cheated on? Is publicly calling out a cheater justified, or does it cause more harm than good? We mention an episode with a polyamorous family that we absolutely loved! You can listen here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! Producer Keeshia is filling in today and Britt is curious about her chewing gum and toilet choice habits. Britt has had a very serious emergency that could have had a very dire outcome. This story isn't for a laugh but more a word of warning! Vibes for the week can be found on our website Britt: Keeshia: Modern Wisdom - How to stop feeling like your success is never enough and Apple airpod max headphones Then we jump into your questions! IS HE LYING TO ME? A few years ago when I was around 7 months pregnant I noticed a condom missing from the pack. The only reason I noticed this was because we don’t use condoms and only had them because we were going through fertility treatment and advised to use them prior to egg collection and embryo transfer. I confronted my husband about it and he said he likes to wear them when he ‘relieves’ himself because he likes the feeling of it. Fast forward to now and we have been trying for a second baby for almost 9 months. We have embryos frozen so have decided to go through fertility treatment again. Again, we have been advised to use condoms to avoid multiples etc. My husband hasn’t used any of ours since then, or told me that he’s brought more. For the past few months he has been working away a few nights a week and staying at a friend’s house while he’s away (this friend is married with kids). The other day our 2 year old was going through his bag. He opened a zip and pulled out 2 condoms saying ‘daddy biscuits’. A few hours passed and a comment was made and we ended up talking about it. He told me again he liked the feeling of it and that I have nothing to worry about. My sex drive has been very low the last few months trying for a baby again and sex feels like a chore. He doesn’t want to push me or put any pressure on so finds the need to ‘relieve’ himself which is totally fine. I explained to him why it seemed suss and he understood where I was coming from and said he never even saw it that way. Now the question is - I don’t know if this a red flag and he’s lying to me or is this a legit thing and I should just trust him? We are about to have another embryo transfer and I’m just all over the place with my emotions and how I feel about this. I don’t have actual proof he’s done anything wrong or cheated and I don’t have reason to not trust him. AM I A BAD FRIEND? I’ve got a friend who seems to chase chaos in relationships. She is clearly the reason her last wonderful relationship didn’t work out, and since then she has dated multiple toxic guys back to back, and says she loves red flags - as if it’s funny, until it’s not funny anymore. She also never takes any accountability for her bad behaviour. I wish I didn’t get so invested and didn’t care what she did with relationships but it’s put me off our friendship. She’s never done anything bad to me but I find myself with the ick and not wanting to hang out with her because I can’t possibly listen to one more of these chaotic and red flag guy stories. Am I being a bad friend? NOT BUDGETING FAIRLY My family is going on a big holiday for a whole week. I’m talking about my sisters, their husbands and their kids + my parents and me (I’m single). One of my sisters has been the arranger of the whole trip. It was her idea so she has booked and budgeted everything and explained how much everything is costing and how it’s getting split. Now it’s coming to the crushing time of paying everything and getting close to us all going but I’m starting to feel as if things haven’t been fairly budgeted. What’s your perspective? We are 3 sisters helping pay toward ours and our parents' holiday however 2 of us have partners also contributing to the 1/3 expected on each of our behalf and then there is me who has to support the whole 1/3 on my own. Is this just the way the cookie crumbles or should this actually be split by 5 to include my sister's husbands? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

In today’s eye-opening episode, we bring you the harrowing story of a woman who has endured relentless and ongoing stalking. To protect ourselves, we made the decision to keep our guest’s name anonymous as the further we got into this chat it became apparent just how dangerous the man stalking her is. For her, the stalking began years ago and despite every effort she has made with police internationally, she has not been able to have the perpetrator convicted. In this episode, we discuss: The reality of being a victim of stalking Self-gaslighting and doubt: how women often question whether the threat they face is severe enough to involve the police. Ongoing stalking & this continuous ordeal with a persistent and dangerous stalker. Ignored evidence: despite having substantial proof of harassment and stalking behaviour, law enforcement's response has been disappointingly inadequate. The emotional and psychological toll of living under constant surveillance by a stalker. Why the police often fail to take stalking cases seriously and the systemic issues contributing to this neglect. What needs to change with international stalking and harassment laws You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers, What're your thoughts on the skateboarding in the Olympics? We're hooked!Britt has had an old roommate come to visit and it's got her reminiscing on the good old nostalgic days of stitching up a housemate when they bring home a date. The men (human and canine) in Laura's life keep on sh*tting in inappropriate places but it's bringing a lot of joy to the Life Uncut family! Republican vice presidential candidate J.D. Vance previously made some outlandish comments that included the country being run by “a bunch of childless cat ladies”. He's joined the conservative Megyn Kelly show on Friday and somewhat doubled down on the commentary. It's a story that now has Jennifer Anniston, Hilary Clinton and Opera involved so we thought we'd throw in our two cents. It had us asking a few questions: -Do you think it shifts voter’s perspectives on who will be best to run a country if they have children or not? -Do your perspectives on how you see the world shift when you have children? -Are you more ‘entitled’ to a vote if you have a kid that will live in the world that we are creating policies for? We spoke about being child free by choice with Danni Duncan here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers,Welcome back to your weekly venting session where we unpack all of your deep, dark and dirty questions!It was our 5th birthday but we missed it... We reflect on what the last 5 years have meant and you're all the fkn best for listening to this podcast and helping us create this community! WE HAVE A NEW HOME FOR OUR VIBES!!Vibes and Unsubscribes page! Britt: Netflix Simone Biles Rising Laura: One Life film Keeshia: Book - Everyone Here Is Lying Then we jump into your questions: WEDDING SAVE THE DATESI’m getting married at the end of this year, we sent the save the dates February this year. Since then we have lost touch with a friend (never see them, never talk to them over social media etc) they are still close friends with mutual friends of ours. If you send someone a save the date, do you have to follow through with the invitation? There’s no other aspect of money being an issue or anything like that, just purely aren’t close with them now and don’t foresee us being close in the future? PARTNER WANTS TO TELL GROCERY STORE, I WANT TO KEEP THE REFUNDMy partner and I can’t agree. He collected our grocery order tonight for $140 worth and they have had IT issues so we never got the message to say our ‘direct to boot’ order is ready so he went inside the store to grab it. Two hours later we got a message to say our order has to be cancelled and we will be refunded due to IT issues. I think they will take the refund as they are a huge company - we spend at least $300 weekly (family of four- 3 kids in nappies🙈). We are farmers in drought struggling to make ends meet so I think treat it like winning the lottery. He thinks we should ring them to let them know we got the order. I know he is morally right but surely sometimes you have to just take a win. What do you think? DATING SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T QUITE FIT WHAT I PICTURED I’m 28 and have never been in a relationship. A couple of years ago I wrote a list of my ideal man; ambitious, funny, chatty, reliable etc so when I was dating I wouldn’t entertain anyone who wasn’t right for me. I’m in the early stages of dating someone and he ticks everything off the list: he’s really great, I feel safe with him and my friends love him. There’s one small thing that’s niggling at but as I haven’t been in a relationship before I’m still figuring it out. I always pictured myself with someone being the centre of his friend group, could dominate a room, in a sense a bit cocky. But this guy isn’t quite like that! I’m not saying that he’s not confident, but I suppose it looks different to how I envisioned it. I realise I’m overthinking and doubting but any thoughts or advice?

Tori Dunlap is a New York Times best selling author and host of the #1 money podcast for women in the world and was a self made millionaire in her 20’s. Tori is unapologetic about her finances. She uniquely doesn’t just talk about numbers but the systemic issues and value systems behind money and how much control we actually have over personal finances.In our chat we speak about: Unpacking where our values and beliefs about money come from, How the patriarchy really fucked us up when it comes to financial independence Why the stock market and investing scares most of us & how complicated it really is What the priority is between savings, debt, emergency funds etc The mistakes women make investing Renting vs buying a home - what is best for you? Talking about money in your relationship Splitting costs like hens parties & dinner with friends Should the person earning more pay more? Should you have transparency over what your partner earns? Should you ever fully combine finances?

Hey Lifers, First up, have you seen Avatar or Brokeback mountain? They're life changing apparently!We had a group dinner with some podcast friends that didn't end with Biden stepping back from being a presidential candidate but did end with a huge penis. Laura has called for a welfare check on someone and created an enemy in the process! We are seeing an increase in people publicly sharing their breakups on social media, something that previously was almost exclusively done by celebrities. Over the past week we saw two opposite types of break up posts. One was from the Princess of Dubai, Sheikha Mahra & the other was a joint statement from Maya Jama and Stormzy. But why are people sharing this kind of content online? Is it for closure? Is it for clarity? Is it for clout?

Big changes have struck the life uncut team and it's got us questioning 'are you okay?'We speak about female hair loss and the changes that happen with hair during and after pregnancy. Vibes for the week:Britt unsubscribes from podcast that paywall their content after they've hooked you inVibe: Brita water filterKeeshia: Netflix stand up. Hannah Berner - We Ride at DawnLaura: Netflix doco Jacinta Then we get into your questions: TRADIES IN HOUSE Recently we have been having renovations done to our house, meaning lots of trades coming and going. Tradies were literally arriving at our house and not long after were requesting to use the toilet and doing number 2s (with the sound effects). Not just a once off; this was happening everyday of the renos. Am I the only one to think this is not acceptable? My husband was a lot more understanding than I was; maybe because I’m the one who had to clean it!?). Should tradies not ask to use the toilet if they need to do a poo or am I just being very unreasonable!! DOES YOUR PARTNER INTERACT WITH YOU AT THE END OF THE DAY? My boyfriend's default after coming home from work is to be on his phone , watch reels, news, stocks etc. I have told him before to give me attention for a few minutes and just be nice to me so I feel loved. Tonight, Friday night, I'm home from work and looking out onto the balcony as if it's a nice sunset. He comes home, says hi (the door is right across from the balcony ) and sits on the sofa and starts looking at phone. (I was expecting him to walk over to me and give me a hug and kiss). I ask him to come out to the balcony and he says no and continues looking at phone. After a few minutes I ask him to give me some attention (exact words: "babe can you give me some attention?") He throws his phone down and says "stop complaining" and goes into the bedroom and doesn't come out for 45mins. He came out later to the living room and said sorry but he was upset. I asked him to come outside, and he didn't want to. He thinks I'm dramatic and I create a scene ....What do you think? Is it normal to want to be greeted at the end of a work day or am I expecting something that isn’t normal? SIS IN LAW SHOWER WITH MY DAUGHTER My sister in law has showered my daughter with her a couple of times, which I don’t feel comfortable with. My biggest issue is that she never asks if it is okay before doing it. I have mentioned it to my husband but he didn’t really think it was a big deal. How do you bring the conversation up without creating an argument because his family is always on the defence about everything I saw and did.

Hey Lifers, Conversations about the end of our lives and the end of the lives of the people we love are hard. Sometimes they’re so hard that we completely avoid them and we can put ourselves in situations where we don’t know how to manage the last part of a loved one’s life. With that being said you might assume that today’s conversation would be a bit of a difficult listen, but hospice nurse Julie somehow makes it light, interesting and even humorous!Hospice Nurse Julie aka Julie McFadden started educating people about death on tiktok and has grown to have over 3 million followers. In today’s chat we speak about: Julie’s nursing life showing her that prolonging life wasn’t always the best option Processing and accepting the idea of letting someone go Death bed phenomenon like the rally & visioning Voluntary euthanasia. How it works and what it is Some of Julie’s experiences witnessing people’s last breath The most common thing people regret What to expect from a loved one’s death

Hey Lifers, Delilah has been kicked out of dog school. Again!Britt shares how she feels like it's a reflection of her and it turns out that pretty privilege also exists in the canine world!Very sadly, Laura's nan passed away last week. We speak about the concept of the 'rally' where people in the last stage of life seem to have the fog lifted. Laura got to enjoy this moment with her nana. Have you ever heard of a shut up ring? What about a shut up move? We unpack these ideas and how we determine where the line between nagging and good communication is. Is it always ‘if they wanted to he would’ or do some people need prompting? Whether you feel satisfied with a shut up move because you got what you wanted, just not in the way that you wanted it.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!Laura has had to deal with our worst nightmare; it involves gastro and a child burrito. Vibes for the week:Britt: The Beautiful Game on NetflixKeeshia: The Rest is Entertainment podcastLaura: App "Juggle Street" Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD I TELL MY HUSBAND I SLEPT WITH HIMI’ve moved back to the town I grew up in and had a situation where I recognised a tradie that came to our property… I had slept with him! I didn’t mention it to my husband but then I had a thought that maybe I should have told him. I would never lie if he asked outright but now I don’t know if I need to divulge this information voluntarily. Just to add, I didn’t speak to him at all, he didn’t see me and he won’t be returning. It was purely a short fling and it was so long ago who knows if he’d recognise me back. What are your thoughts? HOW TO STOP OBSESSING WHEN DATINGI’m 35 and in the dreaded dating scene. I’ve just been ghosted suddenly after a few great dates and what felt like a really good connection forming. How do I stop obsessing over what I may have done wrong and what could’ve been. I feel like this will make my dating anxiety even worse. I feel like I’m losing all hope that I’ll ever meet someone that actually likes me back. SHOULD HE BE CONTRIBUTING FINANCIALLYI moved to another country to be with my partner. I have said that it’s really important for me to go back home twice a year (4hr international flight, but it’s also a 4hr drive to the airport). Some of my friends and family mentioned that they reckon he should be contributing financially to me going home because I’m the one that moved away. I've always just paid but it did get me thinking and I think it sounds reasonable that he helps me out (he makes significantly more than me) but he doesn’t think so. We’ve been together for a few years now and don’t have any shared finances. What do you guys think? CHEATING NOTE ON MY CARI met the greatest guy ever! My family adore him and he treats me so well. We were living in an apartment complex in a main city where we had an external car park with allocated parking. One day on my way to work, I noticed a note on my windscreen. When I pulled over to read the note, it said, "he cheated on you babe." As soon as I read it, I instantly thought, nope, this isn't for me but as I got to work I kept thinking about it. I started to get upset and told my boss I wasn't feeling well and had to leave. When I confronted my partner, I told him if it's true, let's just talk it over because I can appreciate people who make mistakes. He remained very confident in saying this was not true and he was upset that someone would do something like this. What are your thoughts on this? Would you believe a note someone left on your car, without a contact name or number over someone you loved? Why are people such assholes?

Joining the pod today for an exclusive interview is the wonderful Frankie Muniz; the beloved child actor who starred as Malcolm in "Malcolm in the Middle" and has now made a name for himself as a NASCAR driver. Britt and Frankie were campmates in the "I'm a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here jungle and it was so nice to continue those in depth and personal conversations with Frankie. We spoke about: How Frankie got into acting and landed the role of Malcolm at just 8 years old. How getting into acting isn’t an exact process. It’s likely due to chance The rules of child acting and how schooling worked The sacrifices that his family made to enable his career to exist Child actor finances -the reality of child actor earnings and financial management Frankie's experience with his manager stealing money Avoiding rebellion: Why Frankie didn't follow the typical rebellious path of many child stars. Transition to racing & what inspired him to switch gears and pursue a career in NASCAR. The type of dad he wants to be

Hey Lifers!We are BACK from a little holiday and feeling refreshed, but truthfully still as unhinged as ever! Britt made a big hotel mistake and Laura admitted that Matt was right to be annoyed about something she did when she went away.At the time of recording, media outlets across the world have reported that Margot Robbie is pregnant, despite not having it confirmed by Margot or her husband. It feels like we're not living in 2024. Just over a week ago Miss Universe from 2012 Olivia Culpo married NFL player Christian McCaffrey. Her wedding attire and subsequent interview with Vogue has cause quite the stir with the question of whether her dress was meant to impress or suppress.We unpack the internet's response to her interview and weigh in on whether we think it's a conservative campaign with a side of Madonna whore, or if she should be able to choose whatever wedding dress she wants for any reasons she likes!

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we debate your deepest and darkest dilemmas.First up, we are taking a hot little 2 week break from the podcast! Laura promises to not get any new tattoos... We're all excited to get some zzzzs.Vibes for the week: Britt - Fanta & Red Wine Sangria Laura - The Daily Aus The rise in young women getting labia plasty Keeshia - Search Engine Why'd I Take Speed For Twenty Years MY EX HUSBAND IS SEEING MY NEW PARTNER’S EX WIFE I was married to my ex husband for 8 years, we had two kids together (twins that are 5). The marriage included physical and psychological abuse. After our divorce I met another man, we have currently been together for a year. He is one of a kind, extremely emotionally attentive. A few months after our relationship was public my ex husband matched with his ex wife, and they are now dating. It is a real life wife swap! They also share two children (6 and 3) together so we share four children between the two couples. I can’t help but think my ex husband entered this relationship out of spite and his history of DV is impacting my ability to feel safe in my current relationship as he is that much closer to me. Do I walk away from an amazing relationship in order to distance myself from my ex husband? Or do I remain in the relationship and sit with some of this discomfort? IS IT RUDE TO LEAVE WEDDING BEFORE BRIDE AND GROOM? Is it rude to leave a wedding before the bride and groom? I have always thought you shouldn’t leave before the couple. But, recently at a wedding heaps of people were leaving early and now I am wondering if I was wrong or if people have just given up on this notion. HE DOUBLED DOWN ON WHY HE GHOSTED ME A guy I was dating for a month ghosted me 2 months ago and I didn’t bother following up because we both kind of knew we didn't like each other enough. (He was really hot though so I wouldn't have minded something casual). Fast forward 2 months to now, he decided to call me randomly out of the blue and when I asked his reason for calling, he said he had been reflecting and felt bad that he ghosted and wanted to formally tell me that he didn't think we were compatible. He then went into the reasons why we wouldn't work out. I don't know what's worse: being ghosted or having a ghost pop back up to tell you why he ghosted?? I had a little hope that he wanted to try dating again but he literally just doubled down on why he thought we wouldn't work out. Any thoughts on what's worse? HOW TO WIPE YOUR BUM My friend and I are having a SERIOUS debate… about how to wipe your bum. We’ve settled that we’re both TP folders and not scrunchers, but we wipe our poops SO differently. Please help, do you: Sit on the toilet, reach underneath between your legs and wipe that way? Sit on the toilet, reach around the back and wipe from that angle? OR, Stand up and wipe?? I’m option B, she’s option A and she thinks I’m absolutely crazy for doing so…. Am I? I also occasionally go for option C so I think I’m just f****d up but would love to hear yours and the lifers thoughts. We also settled on wiping from both back to front, or front to back, it just depends on the situation down there…. Is that normal too? Thank you 🤣💩

We've had conversations about men's violence against women and domestic violence on this podcast for 5 years, but to say that it's still a huge problem in Australia would be an understatement. Many people feel as though we've been speaking about this for decades. It's time that men were a part of the conversation and the solution. This episode with Tarang should help you have those conversations with the men in your life. Tarang Chawla is a keynote speaker, writer, broadcaster, advocate and academic at Monash University. He is also the co-founder of ‘Not One More Niki', an organisation working to end men’s violence against women.Tarang’s younger sister Niki (Nikita) was murdered by her former partner in 2015. She was 23 years old. Tarang has worked tirelessly to educate people about the cultural, political and individual factors that can contribute to men’s violence with the goal of reducing men’s violence. In our conversation we spoke about: The patterns of behaviour that lead to violence Creating a solution focussed conversation with people who say ‘not all men’. What has changed in the past decade surrounding domestic violence awareness in the public and in government How men can be the solution Tarang’s personal opinions on ‘justice’ for murderers Why media and institutions shape the narrative of who the perpetrators of violence How we teach boys and girls about their place in the world

It's been a HUGE week!Laura got nits, producer Keeshia won a media week award and as you all likely know, BRITT GOT ENGAGED!It's been 5 years of us having the privilege of doing this podcast, sharing all of the best life moments and deeply cooked dating lives, whilst praying to all of the Gods that Britt found her penguin! On today's episode, we take a little trip down memory lane of Britt and Ben's love story and then they answer all of your questions about their engagement and future plans!They speak about:-Whether Britt knew it was happening-How the day panned out-All of the ring details and Ben & Laura's secret messages-What's going to happen once they're married with where they live-Any plans for the wedding

OUR BRITTY IS ENGAGED!!!!! Today's recording included a HUGE surprise for Laura and Keeshia and we're all crying so you're welcome to too.First up, Laura wants to help her friend know how to avoid catching the feels for her 'friends with benefits' pal. Vibes for the week: Britt - Netflix "Geek Girl"Keeshia - Unsubscribing from The Kardashians. Vibing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck podcast The Harsh Truth About Self Discipline ft Rich RollLaura - Tony's Chocolonely Caramel Sea Salt Milk Chocolate Block Then we get into your questions and one little surprise: I WANT TO KEEP THEIR DOG My friends have a 2.5yr old toddler and a newborn. To help them out, I agreed to look after their puppy for 18 months as they raise their kids as the puppy can be a bit much. I’m currently two months in and realising I did not think this through. The thought of giving him back in a year is really upsetting. The timing of me taking on their dog has come after A) the death of our family dog, and B) I am healing from a toxic relationship so I really needed a little buddy to latch onto and that has been my friend's dog. I also feel like I’m a better home for him as he has my full attention and has made so many friends at my local beach/dog park. The husband is keen on me having him, but the wife is on a very different page and wants the dog back in a year. I genuinely will be heartbroken if I have to give this dog back. How should I approach this with them to convince them that I should keep their dog? PORN SHOWER My husband was in the shower and I needed a lil wee so I went in to do that. As I was on the loo I was perving on him in the shower… he looked good, a potential semi, so I decided to strip off and jump in. We had sex in the shower. When we finished I turned to get out and something dropped on the floor. It was his phone. It had been propped up in the shower. So essentially when I had come in to use the bathroom he was watching porn on his phone in the shower and about to have a w**k. He was interrupted. I felt weird, like a bit used, as in he was semi hard from watching someone else and then I finished the job. Should I feel weird about this? And then Britt's own question!

In the past few weeks, the Netflix show ‘Baby Reindeer’ has been the number 1 TV show in the world. The bio of the show reads “When a struggling comedian shows an act of kindness to a vulnerable woman, it sparks a suffocating obsession which threatens to wreck both their lives.” This show provided quite a nuanced look at the insidious nature of stalking and a lot of the complex emotions that the victims can experience. Joining the podcast today is Nicole Madigan. Nicole is a journalist and the author of “Obsession”. Nicole was stalked for over three years. It wreaked havoc on her life and trapped her in a constant state of fear. In this chat we speak about: Nicole’s story and how a stalker infiltrated her life The emotions experienced by victims of stalking Whether Baby Reindeer on Netflix was an accurate representation of what stalking is like How stalking and harassment isn’t taken seriously in our worlds or by law enforcement How difficult it is to prove that someone is stalking you and where authorities come into it The 5 different stalking types What percentage of perpetrators are men/women and the gender break down of victims Misconceptions of stalking

Hey Lifers!Poor Laura has come down with either gastro or food poisoning today so (one of) the boss(es) is away and the mice will play!Producer Keeshia is filling in today.Britt went on a magical holiday to Hamilton Island and met Skippy but also potentially ruined someone's wedding photos.Have you accidentally ruined someone's special day? Have you had a failed proposal? We take a deep dive today on how to know whether you should break up with your partner. A bunch of experts put together a list of signs and we also added a few questions of our own like:-Am I staying in this relationship out of fear of being alone?-Have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have? What kept you there?-How do you distinguish between a rough patch and a fundamental incompatibility in a relationship?-Do you think happiness is a good indicator of the relationship? We spoke about these episodes in this chat: Fix the Sex, Fix the Relationship - Uncut with Ester PerelHow to manage a break up - Uncut with Jillian TureckiThe original list was published here in women's health magazine

Hey Lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark questions and weigh in on all of the dilemmas! How incredibly awkward can facebook marketplace be? Laura's had the person who is way too keen for a chat and Britt has ended up... not paying for some boogie boards!If you received a message saying "Available when? I work m-f and get home around 9ish" what would you think it meant? There's a man in Florida who, ahhhh misunderstood those of us working weekdays... Vibes for the week:Britt Podcast Trump TrialsKeeshia "Dancing for the Devil The 7M TikTok Cult " on NetflixLaura Hippo Closet Dehumidifier Then we jump into your questions: I'VE BEEN SLEEPING WITH MY BEST FRIEND'S BROTHERI have been friends with my bestie since primary school. We are in our early 20’s now. About 6 months ago I was staying at her house and I slept with her older brother. We had had a few drinks and it honestly just happened. I didn't say anything because I felt bad and thought it would never happen again. But, we have started sort of sleeping together… and now I have feelings! AHHHHH I am in so deep. What should I do? How do I know if it is worth seeing him seriously and risking the awkwardness with the whole family, and do I tell my friend regardless? I know she is going to be upset. IS IT OK TO GHOST FRIENDS YOU'VE OUTGROWN? I am in a group chat with a few girls I went to high school with 10 years ago. I am close-ish with one, used to be close with two, then the other I never connect with. Every now and again the chat pops up about making plans and I never am really interested in being involved. I feel like I have to respond and make up a reason for not joining. I am asking, is it ok to ghost the chat? It feels harsh, but I can’t say “sorry guys I’ve outgrown the group”. The hard bit is that one of the girls I want to preserve my friendship with, and of course don’t want to seem ‘mean’ to the others. How do I approach this? MY EX NAMED HIS DAUGHTER AFTER MEMy ex-fiance and I were together for a few years in our early twenties. After a few years of no contact we have since remained friendly and kept in touch with family updates, happy birthday etc. A couple of years ago he messaged me out of the blue after a few years and shared that he had a daughter. His message was friendly but he didn't share the daughter’s name which seemed like an odd omission at the time. We had planned a family and named our future kids so I did wonder if he had used *our* name. He popped up again today and curiosity got the better of me so I did a Facebook deepdive and within 10 minutes found his daughter's name. He hadn't borrowed *our* name but to my shock his daughter shared my name. I don't know what to think. I did some more research and it seems I am not the first person to ask this question. Many girls seem to be named after their fathers' ex-girlfriends, crushes, and mistresses. Is this a whole thing?

There’s a huge amount of stigma associated with anything to do with our periods and for a lot of people, they may have spent years being told that they are dramatic, moody and irrational around the time of their period. As it turns out, it may not have just been ‘that time of the month’. They may experience a condition called PMDD or Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. As for any invisible health condition, having a name for it can be really validating and give you a sense that you’re not crazy and you’re not alone. It also helps people around you understand what might be going on so this episode isn’t just for the girlies who experience extreme mood shifts like depression, irritability, anger and hopelessness around their period, it’s also for those of us who don’t so that we can be more supportive for a loved one who does. Today we have Dr Isobelle Smith, an endocrinologist with over 10 years of experience in hormones, joining us to unpack the ins and outs of PMDD.We chat: What PMDD is and how it differs from PMS The stigma of ‘erratic’ moods and emotional dysregulation The possible causes of PMDD PMDD being listed as a mental disorder Treatment and management for PMDD How PMDD changes over the course of your ‘reproductive’ years PMDD in perimenopause and menopause Medical misogyny and advocating for your own health

Hey Lifers!First up today, we hear what 'Life Uncut' could have been. We also went on holidays to the same place but actively chose not to see each other! Britt got into competitive arguments & Matt surprised Laura with a guest on their family holiday. More highbrow chat; Laura shares a tiktoker who got a bullet vibrator stuck up their butt. Unfortunately it was on. Then we are joined by political expert and journalist Charles Croucher to get our heads around Donald Trump's criminal conviction, making him the first president in U.S. history to be convicted of a crime. Charles breaks down Trump's cover up of a 'hush money' payment to porn star Stormy Daniels in the lead up to his presidential election in 2016. We break down whether it's likely Trump will go to jail, whether he could run for president from prison and what other cases might be coming up in the future. We speak about what the actual crime was, and how Trump's team tried to use everything in their power to shame and silence a porn star, claiming that she wasn't a credible witness simply because of her job.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas! Britt is particularly chirpy today because her 5 month unintentional celibacy is over! Ben is in town! Laura doesn't have the time for p*rn but she does have the time for an instagram trend that involves you all breathing out all the way and screaming... This isn't our most intellectual episode! Vibes for the week:Britt - Apples Never Fall on BingeKeeshia - "Hale" on Spotify Hale Breathwork. Laura - We the wild Neem Oil Spray Then we get into your questions: PUTTING A FAKE AGE ON DATING APPSI matched with a guy on a dating app and we met up for lunch yesterday. I made a comment about how he and I were of a similar age and generation (me being 38 and him 40) to which he said, “Oh, no, I’m actually 45.” This is not the first, second or third time this has happened. I have had this happen innumerable times and there is always the excuse that, “the app wouldn’t let me change it.” To which my thought is, “well if you were honest in the first place, you wouldn’t need to change anything.” Questions:1. Do women put an incorrect age in the dating apps too? My experience is with dating men and I am curious about whether this is something everyone does or not.2. He was otherwise lovely so is it better to just brush it aside as being a mistake and go on another date? Or do I take this as a sign of being insincere and an amber flag and move on to another match? HIS EX KEEPS REACHING OUT TO MY PARTNER AND HIS FAMILYMy partner of 2 years (he is wonderful, definitely my penguin, we own a house together, but currently doing long distance due to work) has let me know that his ex (they were together for 8 years and separated amicably) has been in contact with him (sending lots of one way messages asking to catch up which he hasn’t replied to) but she has also been in contact with his family and grandparents and has organised to meet up with them in the next few weeks 😬 and has also asked to see him and his mum. He told me straight away and has said that it’s up to me whether he goes to see her or not. I trust him completely so it’s not like I am concerned anything will happen between them, but the situation has made me feel really uneasy! I know that 8 years is a long time to be in a relationship, and that you can get pretty close with family, but to continue be in contact after 2+ years of being separated and continue to organise catch ups does make me feel unsure about the situation, and also where I stand with his family (we have always gotten along swimmingly). For context I live in a different state to him and his family. What should I do? I feel like I really can’t be the one to say that she shouldn’t be in contact with him/family anymore because I’ll be the “bad guy”, and am I just being insecure about the fact that the ex and my partner's family have a close relationship! PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WATCH ME GIVE BIRTHThe most recent podcast about pregnancy/ childbirth got my boyfriend and I talking about when we are in the situation. He just told me that he doesn’t know if he will be able to watch! Is that a normal reaction for blokes? I’m so offended he wouldn’t want to watch. I also think that when he is actually in the situation it’ll be different. Thoughts??

Joining the podcast today is domestic violence advocate Bianca Unwin. Bianca has degrees in both criminology and psychological sciences and she is joining us today to speak about a loophole known as ‘emergency management days’ that over 7000 prisoners could be using to receive reductions in their prison sentences. Many of these convicted offenders are violent and high risk offenders. Bianca’s sister Katie was a 29 year old mother of two when her partner Shane Robertson beat her to death while the couple’s child slept in a room next door. Shane was convicted but received a below average sentence of 19 years without parole. However, due to legislation enacted by the Victorian government allowing sentence reductions for prisoners under ‘emergency management days,’ a provision especially impactful during COVID-19, his sentence may be substantially reduced. Bianca joins the podcast today to speak about the contrast between what we all seem to be screaming from the rooftops in our fight to protect women, and the government’s leniency on reducing the sentence of violent criminals. We also speak about the inadequate rehabilitation of violent perpetrators and how we all need to be showing the government that these reductions in sentences are not what the community wants.

Hey Lifers!First up, Britt is served a slice of humble pie for some risky fashion choices. Laura has a stye... it's just a sh*tshow today. Laura and Matt went back to where they got married & the kids were a bit disappointed in comparison to last time.Do you feel as though you can maintain relationships with people who have different values to you? We speak about the response from the Kelce brothers to Harrison Butker's controversial speech two weeks ago.We discuss the ins and outs of whether different religious, political or moral values dictate if you can have relationships with people. We speak about the privilege involved with 'whether' you care about certain view points and whether it's the intensity of those values that might be the line in the sand.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas! Britt has some really exciting personal news about her sister Sheri and her husband Jay.Vibes for this week:Britt - Bodyparts on Nine Now Keeshia - Three Identical Strangers on NetflixLaura - No Filter Patrick Gagne is a sociopathThen we jump into your questions! SHOULD I ATTEND THE FUNERAL?I was with my ex for 12 years. During the last 3 of those years my ex-Mother in Law (MIL) lived with us; I knew her very well. I'm now happily remarried with two kids and haven't spoken to anyone from my ex's family for around 6 years. Recently, I found out my ex-MIL has gotten very sick and it got me thinking about when she passes away. I would want to pay my respects to her given she was a huge part of my past life, but I don't know if attending her funeral and seeing my ex and his family for the first time since leaving him would only add to their pain. My question is: who do you attend a funeral for? Is it for the person who has passed away? Or their loved ones left behind? I DON'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH MY COWORKER How do I let a work colleague know that I have no interest in being friends with them outside of work (or even at work TBH)? I really struggle working with this particular person, but that's clearly unbeknownst to her as she continually asks me to do things outside of work! I always come up with excuses not to go, but it's getting harder and harder. Also these are not big group things where everyone is invited, it's literally just the two of us and maybe one or 2 other people. Do I need to be more direct? Or just say yes and make it a really bad time so she doesn't want to hang out anymore? Or just keep putting up with it and coming up with excuses? SHOWER ETIQUETTE What is the etiquette when using someone else’s shower while staying with them? Do you bring your own shampoo/conditioner/body wash etc? Or is it acceptable to use theirs? DO I CONFRONT/ASK HIM OR PLAY IT OUT Last week my husband asked me to pick up a parcel for him from the post office and said it was a tool for work. When I picked up the parcel, I noticed it was from a silversmith so I googled them. I didn’t look any further as Mother’s Day was approaching and didn’t want to ruin my surprise. I didn’t get jewellery for Mothers Day. I looked on the website and it could be fingerprint jewellery but it’s way out of our budget. I mentioned it to my best friend to see what to do. After naming the jeweller, she said our mutual friend is mates with the jeweller, maybe our friend is going to propose and use my husband and our address for secret delivery. The 3 possible situations are: My husband bought someone else jewellery Fingerprint jewellery that will be back in a few weeks My husband is in on our friend's proposal and is keeping it secret (fair enough). My question is, do I ask my husband about the parcel or do I wait and see if something happens in the coming months? Clearly it’s bothering me haha.

Imagine yourself married to the person you love when they’re diagnosed with terminal cancer. You’ve been their carer and support during such an emotionally difficult time. But, then you find out that they have been cheating on you since your wedding day.Do you continue to care for them?Today’s guest didn’t have to imagine this scenario. She lived it. Kerstin Pilz grew up in Germany and was working as an academic at Macquarie University here in Australia. She was married to her job when Gianni, a charming Italian, turned her life into a champagne-coloured fairy tale. Soon after their runaway wedding, her new husband was diagnosed with cancer. Kerstin became his dedicated carer. But when she discovered that he had been cheating on her throughout their relationship, she was faced with a difficult choice: walk away, or continue to care for the man who betrayed her.

Today's episode has a lot of variation of light and shade. Britt has done something that could be one of the funniest stories of something embarrassing that she's ever told. Salt & pepper squid anyone?Laura and her family have been navigating a really hard time in their personal lives as her step dad has entered the last phase of his terminal cancer. They had a celebration of his life and today Laura shares what this experience has been like behind the scenes. Please if there is one thing about today's episode, it's to reach out to the men in your life who are over 50 and ask them when their last prostate check was.Footage of a horrific, violent assault by Sean 'Diddy' Combs on his ex girlfriend Cassie Ventura has spread over the weekend. He has now released an 'apology' video that completely contradicts a statement he made in December where he said that he was completely innocent and that the allegations made against him were by "individuals looking for a quick pay day".We speak about women not being 'reliable narrators of their own experiences' until there is video evidence of abuse. We speak about 'reputational apologies' and how different laws complicate this particular scenario.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and dark dilemmas! The first dilemma of the day is that Marlie Mae (Laura's 4 year old) has been watching Taylor Swift 'The Eras Tour' and she's learnt some questionable dance moves... We have an ask uncut aftermath from a question last week!! We absolutely love finding out what happened next. Vibes for the week: Britt: pretty lazy magic wand hair perfector Keeshia: The Mel Robbins Podcast with Dr. Jen Gunter MD How to Balance Your Hormones: What Your Doctor Isn’t Telling You About Menopause Laura: Mimi's haircare for kids Then we jump into your questions: GRANDPARENTS WANT WEIRD TITLES THAT WE HATEMy husband and I have a problem, we are 5 months pregnant with our first child and my in-laws have been thinking about what they want to be called. Now, I’m happy for it not to be the typical grandma and grandpa etc if they don’t want but they have just called my husband to let him know that my MIL wants to be called cougey and my FIL has picked Ockey. (I don’t know how they would be spelt but they sound like koo ghee and ock ee.) We don't like these names and think they are weird, and could be confusing for our baby when she grows up. We don’t want to hurt their feelings but we also don’t want to have to refer to them as these strange names forever. How can we approach this with them or is it something they have every right to choose on what to be called by our child? DO I PRETEND IT'S GREAT?If a partner plans something for an event such as birthday, Mother’s Day, etc and you are disappointed, do you pretend it’s great? Or let them know you're disappointed? A couple of times I’ve expected a bit more planning from my partner and been disappointed but felt guilty for feeling this way. Are my expectations too high and is anything better than nothing? I should mention I’ve told him that I’m a sentimental person when it comes to milestones DO I CALL B******T OR IS THIS ‘NORMAL’ THESE DAYS? I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months (after his marriage of 2 years ago and 2 kids ended). Due to this I’ve given him space in anything too heavy about committing etc. About a month ago I asked him if he was on the apps and he said no, we haven’t had anymore “exclusive” chats. I’ve found out this week that he has liked one of my best mates pictures on hinge (who he’s met). He says it was an accident & he went on there because he was bored. Do I call b******t on this? My male friend says that blokes need validation and until you tell them your boundaries and commit, it’s fair game. He wants to talk it through and get on the same page but I am unsure if I want to bother. I have been single for 10 years and had hopes for this. He has all the qualities that I’m looking for but he seems emotionally immature. He hasn’t told me his feelings for me yet but he clearly likes me. Is my bar too high or is this just what we would expect nowadays?

Joining the podcast today is comedian, TV personality and camp mate from the South African jungle Stephen K Amos! Britt got to know Stephen in their month in Africa together and they formed a special friendship built on some very personal and impactful conversations. Stephen joins us today with some of the funniest accidentally unfiltered stories (yes, plural) that we have ever heard!Stephen is such a laugh and a half and as funny as he is, he is equally as deep and thoughtful. We spoke about: Time in the jungle His life growing up in a Nigerian family in South London Expectations and being a ‘role model’ when he didn’t expect to be Always being labelled as a ‘Black comedian’ and eventually ‘Black, gay comedian’ Push back on political comedy ‘ruining’ comedy Stephen’s encounter with the Pope and his unexpected response to Stephen’s sexuality Performing for the Royal family Accepting himself and his body; wearing shorts for the first time EVER in the jungle

Hey Lifers,Today didn't quite go to plan! Laura's car broke down on the way to work so Producer Keeshia is filling in for her.Britt got ... locked in a sauna. She quite literally was stuck in there waiting for Wim Hof to finish his meditative ice bath!How do you feel about being in the background of someone's video at the gym? Keeshia found herself in this predicament and felt really uncomfortable. Then we have a chat about Piers Morgan's interview with the woman who is being labelled as the 'real Martha from Baby Reindeer'.We question: Whether interviews like this are exploitative and cross ethical boundaries Whether she has the right to defend herself Who is 'more' in the wrong; Netflix, Richard Gadd, Piers Morgan or the alleged stalker? Who owns a story? Whether it changes your opinion of the show

Hey guys and welcome back to your therapy Thursday where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions!First up, we asked our partners what they would have called us on their sex list. Not sure if we are recommending this one or not to be honest!Bachie has been canned and we will well and truly miss the beautiful tones of Osher's "ladies". Vibes for the week:Britt - Netflix The Roast of Tom BradyLaura - The Daily - Sunday Special 'Modern Love' podcast epKeeshia - Pill Box from Dosey Then we jump into your questions! HE WANTS TO CHEAT WITH MEMy husband and I travel frequently with another family who have children the same age. It started out as my husband and his friends but over time the wife has become one of, if not, my best friend. They live interstate but we talk most days. We are 2 weeks away from an international holiday with them, when he asks me in a private message if I was with my husband at the time, and to message back when I was alone. He asked if I would like to ‘hook up’ whilst overseas and at the same time said don’t say a word to them (meaning his wife and my husband). I actually asked if he was joking to which he replied “no, but now it’s awkward”. I brushed it off and politely declined. As I stand, it’s nearly 24 hours after the message. I am planning on telling my husband that we will need to rearrange our holiday and accommodation plans. She is going to know something has happened, so when she asks me why we are cancelling on them what do I say? If roles were reversed I would 100% want to know. We have always suspected he’s probably not 100% faithful to her but to make matters worse she is pregnant. I know the information is going to ruin her life. PARTNER DOESN'T WANT ME TO DONATE MY EGGS TO MY BROTHERI have two older gay brothers. Since I was about 16 (I am now in my mid 20s) I’ve said that I would like to donate eggs in the future to them, so they can have biological kids with their partner. (I always figured since we look very similar and I don’t plan on having kids it would be a nice way to have biological children in the family). One of my brothers and his partner are ready to start the process to have kids. However, my partner of 2 years that I plan on marrying is very uncomfortable and does not agree with this decision. He sees that it will be my kid. I am not sure what to do. Do I listen to my partner's concerns and come to terms with not helping my brothers or follow through with this said promise? What are your thoughts? Am I crazy for offering and not seeing it as being my child? IS IT OK TO KEEP EX HUSBANDS SURNAMEMy ex husband and I split a number of years ago and had one child together. I took his surname when we married. We have both since re-coupled and he is now engaged. This has made me wonder - is it time to change my name back? The problem is, I LOVE my current name and it feels like a bit part of who I am; personally and professionally. I also really love having the same surname as the child we happily co-parent. Is it weird if I just keep the name? My new partner and I also have a child together, and marriage will be on the cards one day but I don’t want to change my name multiple times… and I much prefer my current name 😅

Laura is being gaslit by a sleep tracker and she is mad about it! She's also looking for which staff member (*allegedly) took her vibrator. Britt has been seeing a particular ex ALL over the place on an unexpected publicity tour. Do you keep a list of all of the people you've had sex with? Drew Barrymore did and she left it at Danny DeVito’s house! We share our ideas of lists, whether there are a few names that have slipped our memory and the nicknames you all have for the adventures you've been on! Plus, we talk about the journey of celibacy that Craig David has been on. *There’s been no more ‘making love by Wednesday'.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to our ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and debaucherous dilemmas. Today includes a doozy!Vibes for the week: Britt- Plane Tablet Holder Laura- Severance on Apple TV Keeshia- SBS Insight -Convenient Relationships Then we jump into your questions: SHE CHEATED WITH A SECOND COUSINMy cousin has come to me absolutely distraught. She confided to me that at a family wedding about 2 months ago she got very very drunk and had sex with our second cousin! Keep in mind she is newly married! She also told me that she is pregnant and not 100% sure who the dad is (her husband or the second cousin) . She has decided just to assume it’s her husband and is not looking into a paternity test. She is so ashamed and I think the only reason she has opened up to me is because of the pregnancy. Is it my place to tell the husband (who I’m close with too), for his sake and the baby’s sake (it could have serious health implications) or do I just pretend I know nothing? AM I MEANT TO BE WITH MY EX? I truly believe that my ex from 10 years ago is who I am meant to be with… We were really young and it just wasn’t the right time back then however, over the years there have been multiple times when we have talked about getting back together. There has always been something in the way like work commitments, personal reasons or one has been in a relationship when the other hasn’t. Only a few months ago when I was in a short relationship, I found out he was interested again. I'm not in that relationship anymore but he has just started seeing someone. What should I do? No matter how much I try to convince myself I’m wrong, my gut keeps telling me that it’s him and it will always be him who I am meant to be with. Should I try and talk to him about this (if so what the hell do I say) or just wait and see if time brings us back together again? Is he just the one that got away and it’s time to let that go? HOW SHOULD COUPLES SPLIT PAYMENTS I’m planning on moving out with my boyfriend and our two mates in three months into Sydney. For reference we’ve been dating for 6 years and I’ve been friends with his mates the whole time.I’ve been looking at places and am confused about how couples pay rent. Are we expected to split the amount evenly by all 4 of us even though my boyfriend and I are in the same room? Obviously bills are paid per person but I feel like it’s unfair when we are getting half the room. I haven’t moved out before so I'm not sure about roommate etiquette.

In 2022, coming out of lockdown, Johann went to a party with Hollywood celebrities. He noticed that unlike him and his friends who had all gained weight in lockdown, these people had all somehow lost a lot weight. It wasn't because they had taken up pilates. It was because of a new generation of injectable drugs, designed for diabetics, except that no one was speaking about it. Immediately he felt conflicted about these drugs. On one hand, it seemed as though they may have the ability to significantly improve the health risks associated with obesity; but there was also a dark side that he felt the need to investigate. Johann decided he would interview over 100 of the world's leading experts in science, medicine and the body positivity space to create his latest book "Magic Pill. The extraordinary benefits and disturbing risks of new weight loss drugs.” In this episode, we speak about: When Johann first became aware of drugs like Ozempic Fatphobia, stigma and shame that we have been conditioned to experience in our culture What these drugs could mean for people who already experience disordered eating How these drugs work and Johann's personal experiences on them The potential health benefits that they may have The risks and unknown outcomes of this class of drugs How weight is a 'status' symbol in our society Whether these drugs should solely be available for diabetics The potential future outcomes of weight loss drugs & what they could mean for our economy

Britt is back baby! There are always so many questions about what happens 'behind the scenes' on any reality TV show & in today's episode, Britt answered a big bunch of your questions, truthfully! We unpack: How 'time' and filming worked in the jungle (on camera/off camera) How the food situation worked and what affect it had on each of them What happens for the women on their period Her realisations about having children in the future What it was like to not have a phone for a month Fights inside the camp Contraband How much they got paid Who played up for the cameras Who was the best and worst in camp

Welcome back to Ask Uncut, where we answer all of your deep, dark and sometimes deranged questions! Laura has one of her own first up! If a kid at preschool had taught your kid swear words, would you dob on them? Vibes for the week: Keeshia: I Love Linen Mattress Topper Laura: Koala Couch& Baby Reindeer on Netflix Then we jump into your questions: MY PARTNER CONSISTENTLY WETS THE BED WHEN HE DRINKS & HE WON’T STOP DRINKINGMy partner (M37) is a big drinker and also has an overactive bladder which leads him to wetting the bed basically every weekend when he drinks. I’ve expressed my discontent with this numerous times throughout our three year relationship and have tried to help by buying nappies, setting alarms during the night and trying to trick him into sleeping in other rooms. I’ve also pushed him to see a urologist where he now takes medication to urinate less throughout the day however as the bed wetting is primarily a problem from alcohol, he’s still frequently wetting himself. This impact also extends to when we go away with friends, for weddings, on holidays etc and he makes no effort to drink less and I’m left to monitor him throughout the night to make sure he gets up to pee and doesn’t wet the bed as we have no where else to sleep. I’m at my wit’s end and have even gone to see a relationship counsellor who basically said (long story short) that if I try to change the un-changeable then I’m going to drive myself crazy and I basically need to learn to live with it. My partner has an enormous victim mentality about this and his only emotional response is that “it’s not fair that his mates can drink as much as they want without this problem” and “why me, it’s not fair”. Am I being unreasonable in expecting him to drink less to stop this problem? If he was in his early 20s I’d give him time grow out of it, but at nearly 40, I’m heavily considering leaving the relationship because it’s so sad and unattractive, and I don’t want this for my future. Please tell me if I’m being too hard on him like he says that I am. IS IT OK TO W**K AT WORK? I randomly asked my husband when he last had a w**k, to which he replied “uh, probably last week?” Me being a stay at home mum who is home…ALL THE TIME, then asked “was I home?” He so casually responded “oh no, nine times out of ten I’d have a wank at work.” Now, I’m NOT here to yuck someone’s yum, HOWEVER, this is NOT the first partner I’ve had to do this! My husband is a tradie, one was in real estate, another was in the medical area. My question is… is this normal? Why not do it at home? Is it a risk kink thing? HUSBAND NOT REACHING OUT WHILST AWAY My husband has gone to Darwin for a week for a friend's 40th (we live in NSW) which is fine. I encouraged him to go. I am at home with our 2 children, aged 2 and 4 months. I am feeling a little bit let down with how often he is checking in with me while he is away. I feel like I have been initiating all contact with him, sending messages with updates of the kids etc and he takes hours to respond if at all. He doesn’t bother to send good morning or goodnight messages or calls. And I can see that he has been active online. He is staying at his brother's house and I know for a fact they have just been sitting around drinking for the last few days. Am I being unreasonable thinking he should be checking in on us more? I have pulled back on how many times I initiate contact to see whether he would pick it up on his end, but he hasn’t. Should I bring it up with him or just let it go? WEARING A BRA TO WORK Do you always wear a bra to work? I haven’t a couple of times, I have small titties and wear normal neckline tops. I thought I could absolutely get away with it, but I did notice one of my male coworkers looking down and it made me feel a bit weird. I have a desk job and am worried it might not be very professional. Would love your thoughts!

Joining the podcast today is the wonderful Sam Frost.Sam is an actress, an author, a mental health advocate and a mum. She originally graced our screens on the bachelor 10 years ago when she was just 24 years old. Sam has had many ‘eras’ and we address all of them in today’s chat!We speak about: Being so young when she entered the reality TV world and what those experiences were like Being so open about the darkness of mental health and mental illness Becoming an actress on Home and Away, and navigating the criticism of whether she was ‘worthy’ of the opportunity The vaccination conversation and public backlash that Sam endured in 2021 Why she actually decided to leave Home and Away The fear of becoming a mum as someone who already experiences mental illness How motherhood has changed her life What’s in line for her and her partner Jordy’s future with their son Ted

Producer Keeshia is still here... she's clinging on like a turmeric stain. Britt is spending the week with her mum over in South Africa. We get an update on Laura's kitten Raspberry and who her preferred parent seems to be!In today's episode we take a bit of a shallow dive into the world of #smut, #smuttybooks & #booktok. If you've been wishing your libido would wake the f*ck up and resurrect itself, 'cliterature' might be for you!One of us has been doing some homework and has entered the world of erotic romance novels. We discuss how these books have been hugely popular amongst women, how they've helped pleasure back into their lives and explore worlds of fantasy in a safe environment. Taylor Swift dropped two albums over the weekend and we know that everyone is talking about the feud with Kim, and which songs are about Joe Alwyn & which are about Matty Healy. BUT, fewer people are talking about Taylor admitting to still tracking her ex's location on Find My Friends because he forgot to disable it! We have a chat about whether we use location tracking services and how it can feel when you're the one in the break up who doesn't move on first.

Welcome to the episode where we unpack your deep, dark and burning questions. Britt's still in the jungle eating pig nipples. There's a sentence I never thought I'd write... Please keep voting to keep our girl in the jungle! VOTE HERELaura's brought her extra 4 legged child home. Buster is terrified and Matt is still in the 'dad who doesn't want the pet' phase. We all know that there's no one who will love a family pet more than the dad who initially said they didn't want them. Vibes: Keeshia: The Daily Aus Podcast - Bruce Lehrmann lost his defamation case. What does this mean? Laura: ToniMay Mother's Day collection Questions: FRIEND CUTS PEOPLE OFF MID SENTENCE One of my best friends constantly cuts people off while they are mid-sentence, sometimes when the person is answering the questions that she has asked them. She also will cut into other people’s conversations and start talking about something completely unrelated and making it hard to get the original chat back on track. Now that I’ve noticed she does this it drives me mental and makes me not want to have a deep engaged conversation with her, as it seems like she’s not properly listening or interested in what I have to say. Is there a way to politely tell her that she does this? Or is this a quirk of her personality that I need to let go? ACCIDENTALLY PREGNANT AND HE'S NOT BEING SUPPORTIVE I’ve recently moved interstate to a brand new city and I’m loving it. I met a guy pretty soon after arriving here, and he is amazing. Turns out on the first night we slept together, I fell pregnant. I am not in a position to keep the baby, and we’re aligned on that decision. However he hasn’t been as supportive as I would’ve hoped. I have been super sick, unable to work, bed ridden, and he hasn’t been replying for my messages for days on end. He hasn’t offered to bring me anything, or even just pay for appointments or supplies, or even just ask how I'm doing. I know we’re not together but I can’t help but feel disappointed in the way he’s handled this. What would your tips be before going forward in this situation? Should I keep seeing him after? IS IT OK TO PEE WITH YOUR PARTNER IN THE SHOWER? Please help me settle this debate between my boyfriend and I! Is it okay to pee in the shower when I shower with my boyfriend? For context, we shower together every night and he always finds it weird and gross that I have to pee in the shower. But I think It’s fine as it ends up going down the same pipes and to the same destination as the toilet. Should he just get over it or should I stop peeing in the shower when he is in there with me? DO I TELL HIM ABOUT MY FAMILY CONDITION? I lost my dad when I was a teenager from a neurodegenerative disorder. This disorder is genetic and each child has a 50/50 chance of inheriting it with it being a dominant gene. There is no cure or treatment so it is essentially a death sentence. My sister is in the later stages of the disease having been diagnosed in her mid 20s. I haven’t been tested due to not feeling ready but I’m starting to look into testing now as I’ve started to realise how much it has held me back in things such as relationships and career. At this stage from our family history, it’s looking like I don’t have it. I have been single for a long time because of this and not wanting to bring someone in just in case I have it or for them to have to witness what my family is going through. I’ve been on a few dates recently but a lot of the time people ask why I’ve been single for so long. At what stage do I tell them my family history? I don’t want to scare people straight away but also don’t want to misinform them.

Tara Rae Moss is a chronic pain and disability advocate, keynote speaker and bestselling author of 14 books. It’s likely that you originally know Tara Rae from her life as an international model, but her life took an unexpected turn 8 years ago when she developed a chronic pain condition known as CRPS. In this chat we speak about: Her experiences in the modelling industry as a teenager Why she has returned to using her birth name Tara Rae The halo effect, pretty privilege, the ugly laws and how it all is connected to ableism How opportunities dried up once Tara Rae said that she had a disability What living with CRPS was like and her journey to remission Having to take a lie detector test to prove that she actually wrote her novels Intersectional feminism

Hey Lifers,Today's episode was particularly difficult to record. The whole nation is grieving the loss of 6 people in our community after a horrific act of violence on Saturday afternoon at Bondi Junction shopping centre.Within our team, we have personal connections to some of the victims and we want to send our most sincere love and support to the families and loved ones who have had one of the most horrific events imaginable take place. Today we speak about the way that this incident was reported in the media, and the lessons that we can learn from it. In a time where we are so demanding of instant information, it seems as though respect, permission, grace and importantly the need for the information to be true has been lost.And, on a lighter note we also have a chat about how to know whether you should invite your partner to an event/hang out.In this conversation we spoke about an episode that we recorded about askers and guessers.

Hey Lifers,Welcome back to your weekly therapy session where we unpack your deep, burning questions! Vibes for the week:Keeshia: (follow up from last week is that if you already pay for Spotify, you can listen to a bunch of audiobooks for free!)Plus the podcast Modern Wisdom with Matthew Hussey - Why Is Love So Hard To Find In The Modern World Laura: One Day on Netflix Then we get into your questions! My husband and I have two kids. I would happily have another but he doesn't want another. I've become comfortable with this being our family unit. As such, I have broached the conversation of him having a vasectomy because I don't feel as though I should be responsible for contraception given that he is the one who has made this decision. He has completely taken the idea of a vasectomy off the table and said that he will not have one. Although I feel he should have bodily autonomy, I think it is an unfair expectation that he won't have one when I have already given birth to our two children. I was house/pet sitting while the owners were away on holidays. I just discovered an indoor camera in the kitchen / living area - after having a very hot sex with my partner pretty much right in front of it! I have also been walking around naked or just undies when it’s hot. I did ask the owners about cameras/security before agreeing to the house sit and they only informed me about a front door security camera. What do I do now?? Do I ask them about it or should I just ignore it and pray that the camera wasn’t recording, nobody saw anything and they don’t have first class porn stored somewhere on their cloud? Do you think sexual chemistry can grow? I met up with a guy from Hinge, had a great chat, lots of laughs and things in common but couldn’t picture myself kissing him. I usually rely on it from the get go but I’m trying to date guys I wouldn’t usually initially pick since the guys that I do feel instant chemistry with haven’t worked out. My boyfriend just told me that when he was at his best friend's house the other night he lost track of the odds and had to drink his bestie's baby mama's breast milk. We don’t have kids yet and I always thought mine would be the only breast milk he tried. Idk how to feel about it. I'm kinda grossed out and feel upset that he tried another woman's breast milk but don’t know if I’m overreacting or not. He also thinks it’s fine cos it’s the same as drinking female cow milk.

You might have heard a few weeks ago, Laura recommended we all watch Nyad on Netflix. Nyad was nominated for an Oscar and the film told the story of Diana Nyad, who first attempted to swim over 100 miles, which is 170 km, from Cuba to Florida in her 20s.One her first attempt, she was unsuccessful.At the age of 60, she decided to complete the feat she wasn’t able to when she was 28. She decided to do it without a shark cage. She also had to navigate dangerous marine creatures like box jellyfish, which can transfer enough toxin to paralyse and kill you. On her 5th attempt, at the age of 64, Diana completed the 170km swim alongside her best friend and coach Bonnie. This is a story of resilience, defying society's limitations of age and one of female friendship!Diana also shares why she spoke publicly about the s*xual assault that she experienced at the hands of her coach from age 14 in an effort to help other victims not live in shame and be able to find their voice too.Diana has such an energetic and inspirational attitude to life!

Do you go to sleep angry with your partner or do you resolve it all before the zzzs?Also very curious to know if you have certain activities that are laptop only, or if you're comfortable doing it all on your phone? What's your 'limit' of the depth of the activities? On today's episode we have a meaty chat about accountability culture. Last Wednesday feminist authors Antoinette Lattouf, Clementine Ford and Yumi Stynes held a free event with a special guest that turned out to be Jack Steele from the Inspired Unemployed. The event turned out to be a bit of a prank for the TV program Impractical Jokers. People who attended the event have reacted with mixed emotions; mostly being shock, disappointment and anger. We dive deep into the complexities of accountability culture, and what it means to live in a "glass house" where transparency and self-awareness are key. We chat about the nuances of why some people choose to address indiscretions, and why others don't. We talk about intent vs impact, calling in vs calling out and whether there's room for grace when someone in the public space f*cks up.

Hey Lifers!Welcome to your weekly therapy session where we answer all of your deep, dark and controversial questions (today).Laura is in Bali and has been making her sister bank roll the trip. Britt is still in the jungle and we can keep it that way by voting to save her! Vibes for the week:Laura - Brittney Saunder's new business pod Big Business Keeshia - Trevor Noah's podcast What Now? and the 60 minutes interview with Trevor Noah Then we jump into your questions! I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. We’re 24, we live together & share a pet. I’m a hyper romantic & an extrovert. He’s pretty negative & modest at times. He doesn’t like to show his affection unless he’s drunk or we are alone. Over the past year our sex life has gone from weekly to 1-2 times a month. I love him so much & despite our arguments I want this to work. When I questioned him as to why we aren’t having more sex he said “you nag me about it too much & it seems like you’re forcing the seductiveness”. I pulled back any attempt to be overly sexual or touchy & nothing changed. I even put on lingerie, wore his favourite perfume, lit candles and he still said no he didn’t feel like it. I understand but I’m so lost. I’m so young to be in this position because I know that nothing will change. But I don’t know what else to do. I recently went on a 3rd date with a guy, which so far everything was going well with - he was ticking many boxes in terms of constant communication, making plans etc … and on this night he had initiated dinner, booked the restaurant and was even there early … and the date went fabulous. At the end of the night , after going to a bar for more drinks we decided we wouldn’t go home together. By this point all we had done was kiss. As we were exiting the bar - I saw him on his phone, but little did I know he was already booking his Uber. Once we get outside (it’s around 1am) he tells me his Uber is nearly here, I quickly book mine but mine says 9 minutes away.. His Uber arrives and without hesitation he just jumps right in - I thought surely he’d check how far mine was or wait for me but no. He didn’t. He just left me standing on the street alone waiting 8 more minutes for mine … I thought I’d at least get a message from him asking if I got home safe, but nothing. He couldn’t have cared less how or if I got home. But still messaged me the next day asking to see me again. Chivalry is HUGE for me but sadly his lack of care here has given me the major ICK. Do you think this is bad behaviour / a red flag or I should just carry on seeing him and hope it was a simple mistake? My partner & I are planning to start our lil fam. After a recent miscarriage, he was the most supportive person & outside of this, we have the best relationship. I know he will be such a great parent. He will be the stay at home parent after my paid leave finishes as I earn more. I am just not sure where I sit with this one thing. I know it’s common and almost normal these days, but every 6 or so months, he uses cocaine on a “special occasion” with friends. This isn’t really my thing, which he respects, but I appreciate that he’s always been open when he has used them. He agreed without hesitation not to use it while we try again, but I get the impression that he may still use it on rare occasions in the future. It’s not a deal breaker, but I just have a mind-set that it’s something you ‘weed out’ out of your life when you become a parent.

How the f*ck do you move on when you're in the depths of a relationship? Today's episode is with the incredible Jillian Turecki! Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer. She has helped thousands of people be better in their relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself, and has helped just as many people manage the aftermath of a relationship breakdown. We ask for Jillian's advice on: How to know whether you should break up with your partner How do I know if it's just a normal relationship lull or if it's actually the end of the relationship? Do you know when you've found 'the one'? Are break ups always devastating or are they an opportunity? When it's actually not them, it's you. You're the problem Patterns in your dating and relationships

We hope you all had wonderful Easter weekends; whether that is with or without egg hunts and hat parades! Laura shares her feelings around adding magic to special events so that they become your really important memories. Laura is in Bali and has had quite an eventful plane ride. She's curious as to how you'd handle this plane etiquette and Keeshia thinks the passive aggressive route is best.Have you ever felt as though a friend bailed on you when they got in to a relationship? Has this become a bit of a pattern? Are you possibly the friend who deprioritises friendship when you get into a relationship?We discuss the difference between a natural evolution of a friendship, a shift in life stages and expectations of the intensity of friendship. Plus we speak about Lizzo quitting. Is it the result of being guilty in the 'court' of public opinion or have problematic trolls just been given the green light to attack her because of the allegations against her? Is she cancelled? Do you think someone should be hired to perform at an event like a political fundraiser when they have active allegations such as sexual assault allegations against them?

HE CHEATED EARLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP My boyfriend (31) and I (28) started dating in June last year, we made it official at the end of July. Since the very beginning we’ve been very happy. We are both super committed to our relationship and each other, we communicate really well and he shows me every day how much he loves me. I truly thought I had found my penguin. However… I just found out he cheated on me 2 times just when our relationship started. He cheated on me with a girl he met back in June. She was away in Europe for a bit so when we started our relationship she wasn’t around but they were still texting. When she was back they met up 2 times and had sex. This was 1 week, and 2 months after we made it official. All of this came out because the girl reached out to me to tell me everything.I confronted him, he felt really guilty and owned his mistakes. He said it absolutely didn’t mean anything. He was lost and scared and he said he could never do that to me now because we are in such a different stage of our relationship. I can see how our relationship has changed in the last 4 months. He says he has changed and did the inner work after the cheating. I think he still needs to work on himself to potentially continue the relationship. And he agrees. My question is how bad are the red flags? I know you can recover from cheating but can you when you started the relationship and fell in love with the person when he was cheating? I think I really want to make this work and give him another chance HOW DO I ASK IF HE'S SLEEPING WITH OTHER PEOPLE I’ve been seeing this guy for a month so far so good - convos, good hobbies align, values align and watching him work out was a beautiful sight. BUT he is going away in two weeks for a 2 month trip with a mate. Usually it would be way too soon to define the relationship but with him going away my question is do I ask are we not sleeping with other people during this time I feel like it’s usually too soon to ask but I also think if he likes me he shouldn’t want to. He has also told me he’s deleted all the apps (which is how we met) Do I have the convo? BLOW JOB ETIQUETTE I was in a 17 year relationship, married with 2 kids. It was a tough time when we separated and I gave myself a year before I started dating again. I hadn't dated a lot before I got married. I have dated a bit now and it has been fun and hard and an emotional roller coaster. But my question is, what is the etiquette when giving a guy a blow job? Should he ask you and/or tell you before he cums in your mouth? I went out with a guy on a few dates and the first time we were intimate together I was quite surprised when I went down on him and a short time later he just came in my mouth without saying anything until after he came he said 'Good girl'. I felt degraded and a bit used to be honest. I usually don't mind this happening but previous guys have always asked or warned me so I can make a choice. What do you think?

Today's interview felt like such an honour. It's with one of the most successful Australian artists, who likely needs little introduction, Tones and I!She has over 10.5 billion streams worldwide. Her songs have been number 1 in 31 countries and she was the first female artist to reach 3 billion streams on spotify! But, Tones rarely does media and we feel so lucky that this is her first ever long form podcast. We chat about: Why Tones felt like hiding from a public life was a safer option How she grew up and why she worked so hard for what she wanted Dance Monkey catapulting her into the public space and what that felt like behind closed doors Being in her sequin, confidence era Choosing to go sober Living as a married person with a bunch of friends Touring with P!nk after offers from Robbie Williams Announcing her OWN national tour!

Britt has gone into the jungle!! She's petrified of heights and we don't know why she didn't lie about her fears. It's Laura's 38th birthday!!!! (It's possibly her 37th but we've referred to google for reference). Laura speaks candidly about not being a birthday person and why she feels a little bit indifferent to gifts; unless they are plants. We speak about being in certain places of life by a certain time as the years click over. Over the weekend, Princess Catherine announced that she has been battling a cancer diagnosis and undergoing preventative chemotherapy treatment. We question whether people in positions like hers are entitled to privacy just like everyone else, and whether we should feel bad for contributing to the public speculation. Did she feel as though she had to come out with this information because of public harassment or because the PR team royally f*cked up so many times that it pushed her into a corner?

Hey Lifers! We will get to your questions but firstly, BRITT IS GOING TO SOUTH AFRICA and entering the "I'm a celebrity, get me out of here" jungle!We talk about how it came about, what it's going to entail and which charity Britt is going into the jungle for! You can check out the charity Rize Up Australia Vibes for the week: Britt - watch I'm a celebrity on channel 10. It starts on Sunday! Keeshia - Ultra sonic cleaner Zima dental pod Laura - One Child Nation on Prime Video Then we jump into your questions: -Last month my family & I were at the beach and we set up our Cool Cabana and 3 beach chairs. We were there for a few hours but decided we wanted to have lunch so we packed up our beach towels but just left the cabana and beach chairs underneath it. A few hours later we returned and a whole family was sitting under our cabana on our beach chairs. They had their rash shirts all hung up on our cabana. We said ‘what are you doing here?’ and they said they asked people nearby if anyone owned it and when they said they hadn’t seen us in a while they thought it was fine to use. When we asked them to leave the mum rolled her eyes at us and only the young boy apologised. When I told my friend about this she said they had every right to use our cabana and beach chairs. This isn’t correct beach etiquette is it? -I had a friendship of 10+ years who was my best friend and had been through everything with me, this friendship ended last year. The friendship in itself got quite toxic towards the end so it’s definitely a relief that we are no longer friends, however it’s hard to not look back on all the good memories and good times we had. I feel like I’m coming out of a toxic romantic relationship. I know I'm better off without her but it’s still sad. Now that I'm out of this friendship, I find myself looking around at other female friendships and feel sad. I have friends but I feel like it's all on a superficial level, and I'm never truly myself like the way I was with her. My question is how do people make good pure friendships in their 20’s? It's just making me so sad lately -My partner has had a declining sex drive for a while now. I've noticed that his instagram explore page is full of raunchy bikini models. After confronting him about this, he admitted that he jacks off to these pictures. I want to know whether this is a problem to most people or if it's me overreacting?

Today's episode felt like such a privilege. We finally got to meet lifer Nikiya Love in person!You may have gotten to know Nikiya in the life uncut discussion group. Over the years Nikiya has brought us along for the ride throughout her fertility journey and her leukaemia diagnosis while she was pregnant with her beautiful daughter Lexi. In this chat we speak about: -Nikiya's IVF process-How her leukaemia diagnosis happened-Losing her beautiful daughter Lexi-What fertility looks like after chemo-The stem cells from a stranger that saved her life-How important blood donations are Nikiya has a gentle strength and a grasp of what's truly important in life. This chat has left us feeling forever changed.