Hey Lifers, Laura is joining us from Bali today (for work) and Keeshia is filling in for Britt but is in a bit of a funk after moving house over the weekend. They say that if you want to test your relationship, build an ikea flat pack together. Moving house seems to be the level up from that when it comes to testing your relationship. Have you faced the test and realised things about your partner that you’ve never thought before? Laura’s ‘for you’ page is the stuff of nightmares. We might be back tracking on saying that the algorithm only shows you what you spend time on after this 😂. But she’s found a solution for you if yours needs a refresh and an overhaul! There are some changes coming to NSW with how ADHD may be diagnosed and medicated. Most of the commentary online was encouraging of these changes but we speak about why we think it’s a little bit more complex than what it might appear on the surface and how it may add to the stigma that ADHD already has. You can listen to Cloud here Do you want to know if a celebrity has had plastic surgery… or does that just make things worse? Do we want transparency or does it normalise unrealistic beauty standards? Kris Jenner’s new face has infiltrated many group chats and we unpack whether being out and proud about surgery demystifies what it takes to obtain a particular aesthetic or whether it promotes and encourages unnecessary cosmetic procedures. We ask if it’s more damaging to pretend you haven’t had surgery—or to be transparent but promote it like it’s no big deal (when it might be expensive, painful, and risky). You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Hey Lifers! Britt has a laundering hack for you after a clumsy morning and an all white outfit. What happened at a wedding that had the potential to ruin the day? Vibes for the week: Britt - The Trial of Erin Patterson Podcast Keeshia - Cheat Unfinished Business on Netflix Laura - Cosmeceutical Serum Vitamin B3+ Then we jump into your questions! DON’T TRUST BF’S FEMALE FRIEND Been with my boyfriend for 1 year. I don’t trust one of his female friends as I find her actions off. The insecurities started after her engagement party when I got the spidy tingles. The next morning my boyfriend confirmed they had a situationship for two years - ended in 2022ish. I was friendly with my ex and spoke openly about this prior so was unsure why he didn’t tell me - he said he didn’t want me to feel uncomfortable. Since then I’ve noticed off actions. They say “love you” when ending a phone call, he limited their contact to once every few months and she called saying “why don’t you love me anymore?”, sent him a photo memory of them in his bed wearing his shirt with no context, and on their last call made an inside joke after inviting us to stay at her house saying he could sleep on the dog bed at hers, but I could get my own room at her parents house. I laughed out of awkwardness and she said “how’s the fake laugh?”. I told my boyfriend these things make me uncomfortable and we had a levelled respectful conversation. He said he hadn’t noticed these things as off but can see my perspective. I don’t think she has romantic feelings, but more like she is trying to big dog me. He said he will end the friendship, but I’m not sure that is fair. What do you think? How should we approach this? MIL HAS GIVEN ME THE ICK My mother in law has given me the ick, and my poker face is wearing thin. 1 year ago, my partner and I got matching tattoos of hearts. About 3 months ago, my MIL was at an event and messaged our group chat to let us know the event had a tattoo artist and she was getting one (her first tattoo). Next minute she sends a photo of the tattoo and it's a heart! I thought this was a joke, but when it was confirmed as real, I felt really angry. We visited my MIL a few days later and we asked how she landed on the heart. She said there were a few options such as a flower or butterfly, but something was drawing her to the heart. My partner is not bothered by this, but he isn’t bothered by much. I however, feel she has taken away the significance from our matching tattoo as we are now in a tattoo throuple! It's been 3 months, so is this something I should just get over? I used to absolutely adore my MIL, she is kind and well meaning, and wouldn't have done this maliciously, but now I struggle to engage with her and avoid visiting where I can. How do I come back from the ick ?! DID MY HUSBAND GET ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT? About two months ago I told my husband that I am separating from him due to years of coercive control. Things started to get worse since we had our first child in May last year. My 'almost' ex husband recently asked me to bring him his old mobile phone (I haven't allowed him back into the house) and I thought that was strange so I snooped. I found his google history showed he had been on eharmony and also searched elite singles within one month of me saying it's over. However he’s still asking to fix things and get back together because ‘that is what's best for our child’. I also searched his photos and hidden deep in a file I found a photo of a pregnant woman. This photo was not a photo you send to anyone or post online. It's a selfie of her in her underwear in the mirror showing her bump. I snooped some more and found another photo of this same woman with another bump photo. I'm already jumping to conclusions and of course I’m thinking he got this woman pregnant. He does work fifo and is away for about 4 weeks at a time. Is this crazy for me to think he's cheated on me and has a child with another woman somewhere? Is there another logical explanation why it would be normal for a married man to have a photo like this hidden on their phones? I haven't confronted him yet as he is the type of man with narcissistic personality traits and will lie. What should I do? GETTING OVER THE LOSS OF MY CAT VIA BREAKUP Hi girls, love the pods (cloud included). I am currently going through a breakup but I’m really struggling with the loss of our pet cat we had together. We bought him together (he paid so he is his) and honestly I think I held out on breaking up for so long because of the cat. I just have this constant worry he won’t be treated as well as how I was treating the cat and is this silly of me to feel this way about a FREAKING PET?! I have asked to see him but my ex says it is not possible and wants to keep things seperate. How do I get over this and this guilt I have of leaving the cat with him (Btw my ex is a great cat dad but I treat my animals like babies and he sees them as pets and that’s what makes it hard). You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

Polycystic ovarian syndrome or PCOS is a condition that affects 1 in 9 women. The symptoms include things like pimples, increased body hair, thinning of the hair on our head, missed periods (and the flow on effects that affect fertility and build up of the endometrium which is a risk factor for endometrial cancer), increased risk of developing metabolic syndrome (insulin resistance, diabetes and cardiovascular syndrome) and increased risk of mental health conditions. PCOS sucks! (You can probably tell who from the team is writing these episode notes). Keeshia was diagnosed with PCOS about 4 years ago so today Keeshia and Britt are joined by the wonderful Dr Izzy Smith! Dr Izzy Smith is an endocrinologist who has special training in women’s health (PCOS, amenorrhea, menopause transition) thyroid dysfunction, eating disorders and athlete health. In today’s chat we speak about: The large variety of symptoms & why it’s often misdiagnosed What’s going on with our hormones PCOS and fertility Lean PCOS v Overweight PCOS How insulin resistance develops Weight management Cortisol and stress Treatment options for PCOS What helps and what is marketing BS Endocrine disruptors Are weight loss medications an appropriate treatment for PCOS? Find more from Dr Isobel Smith at her website And her instagram We referenced an episode about weight loss medications with Johann Hari that you can watch here. Izzy also mentioned The Eco Well and the endocrine society website You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx